Less lustful thoughts = less desire for women.

Respectful thoughts, seeing women as human beings, only look in their eyes/faces, seeking of a serious relationship

 

It's your effort to do that, and it's possible, trust me. The only thing you need is discipline and self-control of your passions

 

How I find middleground is having standards for what kind of women I allow to get my attention, because this is a big world, and I know what I'm looking for. Another part of this "middleground" is by having goals and working towards them. By being focused on your vision, you'll be less likely to allow yourself to get sidetracked and focus entirely on women.

Hope this helps

 

i like how this was put

 

A relapse with PMO starts with the fantasy

 

Maybe try to allow yourself to think about women from a marital perspective. Think about the whole package and the end goal you want. If all you wanted was sex, you could find that at most bars, or pick up apps, but if you are here, you want something more meaningful: A life long relationship, a mother for your children, someone to grow old with, someone who is there for you when everyone else isn't. You don't go house shopping and only obsess over a bathroom, you look at the whole package and you think about things that meet multiple needs, and how the house will hold up and meet your needs as you age or have children. Have the same thoughts toward a woman.

 

haha well...Im kind of a hermit there...kinda antisocial a bit,still working on my inferiority complexes,bue yes i beleive..discipline....

 

somehow i relate a lot.

 

I think it’s a good thing… this way… you will only have desire for a woman who you really, really, really like a lot

with lustful thoughts, we like any woman basically who shows even an inch of skin

 

Im hanging in there in reference to this.....love skin and at times envy other people haha..working on it

 

what i need right now is some serious dopamine detox.
i have been watching movies and TV shows on a binge since the last month and a half, my whole day consists of doing morning classes and then spending the day away watching movies and TV shows.
i do need to feel happier but this isn't the way.

 

You sound a bit aggressive, brother. Why do you let a little comment get you so upset?

If you want long-lasting recovery from PMO, I would work to eliminate lust thoughts towards women. That's the only strategy that worked for me long-term. Your case may be different.

 

...the more I have become focused in my addictions and the damage it has done ,the more I become focused in as to how I feel now-way calmer than I've ever been.And "noo"....at this point,of having any relationship whatsoever...I mean...whatever kind of relationship it might be.I feel more at peace with myself......and why mess it up with a relationship. Mind you I'm not a hermit but this is working for me.

 

i relapsed due to this.

 

..remember bro...if you fall,well just get up again and start over.We're not perfect and will always make mistakes.But hey.....grow from those mistakes...don't repeat them.