Good day, (Sorry for my bad english, it's not my main language) About 3 years ago I heard about NoFap and started to question my bad habit. I started to fight against my addiction to porn but failed all the time. As I grew older, my addiction got stronger (I am 18 now and started with 12). Now, I managed to get a girlfriend, who I really love. We don't know each other very well because we are both extremely shy. Though, I try my best to build a strong relationship with her. Since I met her I fell in love and it was so strong that I became a hero. I worked out like crazy, was productive 24/7, learning for School was fun to me and everything was just excellent. Now comes the terrible part: I RELAPSED YESTERDAY ((((( I dont know how it came to me. I know that I am in a relationship. I know that I dont want to lose this girl. Regardless the urge was too strong. I felt like something was missing even though I kissed her yesterday. My love to her seemed not as important to me. Now I can't stop fapping, watching porn and eat sweets. It is like overnight I became an addict again!!! I literally fapped like 10 times since yesterday and can't get enough. I want more, more and more pleasure. Looking for help I signed up to NoFap 10 minutes ago. Can anyone help me to get out of the this hell? I already watched thousands of videos over the past 3 years and know everything about Dopamine, Serotonin, Testosteron etc. I still watch NoFap strategies on youtube but they pass me by like it's nothing. I am just sick of relapsing and then starting over again, feeling like crap. I really do everything I can. I work out like crazy (I am quite in shape), I have a schedule, plans for the future and hundreds of appointments in my planner, but there is still a leaking hole inside me. Something is not right that cause me to fall into an obsession with pleasure. I have times where I just absorb everything that is pleasurable, glad that I have no access to drugs. I feel like the devil has tied me up!!!! I really need help.
You might like to take a look at the tips I've given in other posts, two of which are linked in my signature. The short answer is simple: If you fight against your body's cravings, you will never change--the fight must be taken to the mind. Whenever an unwelcome thought enters your mind, at the very moment in which you recognize it for what it is you must reject it. Do not allow yourself to fantasize, imagine, drool over, or otherwise lust for a sexual reward in any way. This necessarily includes thoughts with your girlfriend, because you have no sexual relationship with her and are too weakened by years of habit to resist the slightest physical arousal at this point. It may still take a few weeks before the mind begins to strengthen against the old habits of thought. During this time, the body's urges will be strong. However, it is much harder to DO something you will not allow yourself to even THINK about. Thought control = body control. Hope this helps.
