I've got a question to all of you.

Discussion in 'Loneliness' started by Misha, Apr 27, 2017.

  1. Misha

    Misha Fapstronaut

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    Hello my dear friends. I will write it here maybe somebody will help me. Writing shortly: I am 24 years old male. I don't have problems with socialising, I feel free to talk with people, I have many collegues from university, some of them are mine close friends etc.

    I feel like "lonely" from inside of myself. I mean, I am always craving for the attention from people because I feel unsufficient. I feel I could achieve everything in my life, having a job of my dream, having a great relationship, but still I would feel kind of 'emptyness' inside me.

    One of the way to avoid this feeling is simply to do the stuff and act like this feeling is not existing, but I feel I don't live in peace with myself.

    Any advice?
     
  2. Is there any thirst inside you? Are you thirsty for peace, for true love? Would be great. A man can be thirsty for water only because water exists. The thirst for true love is only possible because there is true love. Any idea who or what you are? When you feel it you will know. It's a feeling deep inside your heart. It's also called fulfillment.
    That's all I want to tell you right now. The thirsty smells the water. *smile*
     
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  3. Misha

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    I am thirsty for being independent emotionally, financially and being supported. And for knowledge that whatever will happen I will manage.
     
  4. IamRick

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    Why not just keep doing whatever it is that makes your feelings of emptiness go away? Maby your hearts trying to keep you on the right path & makes you feel bad for getting off.
     
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  6. Seek the transcendent...

    I would suggest you investigate religion, mystical paths, fulfilment. Read and seek. Talk to people. Go to meetings and gatherings. What you're feeling is your true self yearning for true reality. Most people just stay distracted so they don't have to think about it. It sounds like you're ready for more than that.

    When the things of this world don't fully satisfy you, it means you are ready to seek the truly profound...

    Good luck buddy. PM me if you want to discuss further.
     
  7. Misha

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    The feeling is returning during high stress
     
  8. Misha

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    I think I got the answer.

    Feeling of emptiness is a feeling that I am not living in accordance to myself. Very often I was running away from painful situations and from situations which should make me to become independent.

    Right now all of this came back to me and I was trying to be pleasant nice guy who is always obedient and nice, but this was killing me. I was also running away from taking responsability in my life because it will be painful. Becoming independent is a painful process but that's life and I must go through it. It will be better, sometimes it will be worse, but that's the way life works.

    I was trying to catch attention of people and avoid taking responsability of my life because when we are taking responsability of ourselves at the very beginning we can hurt some important people and in general whole my life I was avoiding argues and even saying my opinion. That's what I've discovered. When I will go through it, then I can go through spiritual practise or any addictional action. Otherwise it would be just a way to escape from reality. Thanks everybody for responding!

    Edit: Just a thought which came to me recently.

    We never know how our life experience can change us and we don't have to put a negative label If we didn't get what we wanted.

    2 years ago one organisation didn't accept me to go as a volunteer to foreign country. I was really pissed off. But one month later I met around 100 foreigners in my agglomeration and some of them are my closest friends. Also I met one girl I was allucinated.

    Also right now, I broke up 3 months ago and I was 100% sure that this is the "proper person". But from this experience I got that I can be uncondicionally loved, that I deserve for love and that problems and argues are solvable.

    So, even If today I need to do a lot of boring stuff and many times I just want to quit everything, there is a way for change. We just need to keep doing, have patience, keep doing and be open minded for changes. Or we will make the changes or they will come unexpectedly.

    Have a good time, I hope it was useful/inspiring/whatever to read this :).
     
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  9. Peace with yourself means "Independence"? Are you aware that each breath coming inside of you is freely given to you? What kind of independence you are talking about? Inner peace is a FEELING, has nothing to do with emotions, finances or supports.
     
  10. Misha

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    I already wrote what independence means to myself.
    I also described in previous post what really troubled me.

    I am already on my way, thanks for your post.