It just dawned on me why I'm still a virgin. It's because of porn.

I've always hated being a virgin. "why don't girls like me!?!!". I thought maybe 2 or 3 girls have ever strongly had interest in me in my entirely life. But I was awake all night last night, I couldn't get to sleep, for some reason I started making a list of all the girls who I believe have ever shown interest in me. The number wasn't 2 or 3. It was fucking 20.

I totally forgot about the time when I got drunk and messaged a cute girl on facebook that I had a crush on her in high school. She replied with something like this: "oh! I never knew that :') <3333!", and she asked me to if I wanted to catch up for a coffee. At the time, I thought she just wanted to catch up as friends, nothing special. I am the biggest idiot. THE BIGGEST IDIOT of all time. I didn't realize that she wanted to go on a FUCKING DATE with me.

The reason why I'm a virgin is not because girls aren't interested in me, ITS BECAUSE IM NOT INTERESTED IN THEM. I'd rather watch porn all day, rewiring my sexual tastes to a fucking screen. real women don't turn me on anymore. Porn did this to me. I am attractive, funny, smart, friendly. I should NOT be a virgin at 22 years old. This is scary as shit. Porn has extremely severe effect on the brain.

 

As a guy who's 20 years older than you, let me give you a piece of friendly advice. You really should stop obsessing about "being a virgin" or sex in general. I've had sex with women from every continent on Earth, I've been with women who did things I haven't even seen in porn (and I've been watching porn longer than you've been alive). Let me tell you something about sex - it's really not that special. Even Neil Strauss said that the relationship between the people having sex is a bigger determinant to the enjoyment level than the sex itself. When I was 27 I paid an escort to take my virginity away from me, but the only thought I give that incident these days is a mild irritation at the money I wasted. If I'd only invested the money back then, it might be worth something today.

By all means get off the fucking porn. Absolutely, get rid of that crap. By all means, go out with girls and spend time with them, as much as you can. Just don't get hung up on the outcome. Go out with the attitude of "I'm gonna have a great time regardless of what happens", then make sure that comes true.

Seriously, these days I get more attention for girls your age than I did when I was your age (which admittedly isn't saying a lot). I honestly believe my change in attitude toward sex is the reason for it.