I don't know what got into me. I opened 2 fetish videos and watched 2 3 minutes, without touching myself then I closed everything. is it a relapse? I am 35 days.
It depends on you brother, what you did was not good but if you didn't touch yourself at all idk if I'd consider it as a relapse. Do whatever feels right to you
I would personally recommend not resetting your day counter and just moving on. But make sure you don't get into the mindset of "Well the goal is not to PMO, so I can watch P here and there" that mentality has fucked me up for a while.
Most relapses is defined by the person. But, no PMO is Porn, Masturbation, and Orgasm. So keep trying your hardest brother! I know you can do this, we all are behind you in this. I agree with Candun as resetting your daily counter can cause less motivation to 'restart'. But seeing the 35 day streak can be a motivation to get further. By the way that's an amazing achievement well done. I would mark this as a setback, but not a relapse as you didn't touch yourself. Just learn from this, and quit PMO for good.
Thank you so much! I survived and today I am at day 38 and I am sure that I will be able to reach 100 days. thanks, you can write me to know how it goes! because I know that I will arrive in 100 days !!!!
For a moment forget about the streak you are on, About whether u relapsed or not, Is your act leading you in the direction u are headed?? NO! Its pulling you behind. I think You need to understand why u want to quit PMO... Dig deeper into your addiction bro, learn to control and foil that urge when you get it, make urself understand why its BAD FOR YOU. All the best!
I completely understand the question here. I made a commitment and promise to myself and 3 days into NO PMO, I watched A Clockwork Orange (Quarantine has finally let me catch up on Kubrick.) That movie was full of violent sex and nude imagery but I didn't consider it a relapse because I wasn't turned on or felt my control slipping away, I was in control of myself and just watching a great movie. 23 Days Into my streak I find myself mindlessly scrolling through Instagram (on the toilet, like everyone on instagram) and I saw some fake spam account that was filled with sexual content which I clicked mindlessly, although I didn't see any nudity it was very explicitly implied. I felt myself lose control and thought, I should reset my counter. It's not because I failed it's because my measurement of success has changed. When I reset in the past I would binge porn and really lose control and feel like shit but now I'm so at peace resetting my counter because I feel I'm being honest with myself and that honesty is the start of actually trusting myself. Porn and Masterbation are a sort of medicine, a rush of dopamine, a feeling of power... That medicine just like any, has side effects and I'm just plain tired of associating control with power. Real Control is self contained, you cant control the outside world, good feelings stem from within. If I was in your situation I'd reset but only with the intention to congratulate yourself for being honest.
