Is there somebody who would talk to me?

Hey leppardfan,

I don't know if I would be the best person, as I am only on day 4 of PMO and I am struggling like crazy to tackle my porn addiction. Everybody here has been so helpful with advice and compassion, I have heard that helping others makes a big difference in recovery/rebooting.

Happy to talk even if I don't have solid advice yet. I like knowing that I am not the only one going through this. I have always been very secretive about my porn habits - looking forward to a time when I don't 'have to have it' 24/7 and can start enjoying other things in life.

Let me know if you want to connect.

 

Hi @leppardfan25, just like @Darwin Kemper I'd love to talk too! Peace, be strong!

 

Hey buddy don't take life so serious but be sincere in your efforts towards no PMO. This NoFap is an absolutely fabulous for people like us who suffered with PMO. Buddy my suggestion would be daily come to site and post something and try to read others post too. This will make you happy. Even I used to PM daily 2 to 3 times a day. But iam free from PMO from last 13 days. It's been beautiful so far. So we everyone suffered with porn addiction. So better not to think of that. Again I want to say don't take life serious but be sincere. Remember it. Gud luck!!

 

Right there with you. I have a great memory and it is not only visual images that have started to creep into my brain. Reliving intense or extreme MO seems to linger longer than flashes of sexy memories or porn. It makes me feel powerless to control my thoughts.
The positive side is that with journalling I can get a realistic landscape of just how deviant my habit was. For me the last 40 years have been a blur, but with reflection I am realizing that what started as Playboy and Penthouse (I am old - pre internet was a different world) transformed into pushing envelope on jailbait, public masturbation (never got caught), edging for hours on end, auto fellatio, looking at porn at work, in the car, secretly look at on cell while having a conversation with my wife in the next room, posting gifs of myself cumming to online image boards, you name it. Because of this my triggers are everywhere, family, driving, working, computers, social media, nighttime, daytime, dreams - I have a lot of work to gain some semblance of a healthy life but I think honesty and transparency are the key.
I know you can do it - it is OK to be angry and frustrated. It least it proves you are sensitive and passionate. I believe you have capacity to focus that energy toward achieving your goals.

 

I don't know if it helps, but I was convinced I couldn't get an erection without looking at porn. I started with just removing porn from my life (day 58) but found that MO came naturally after about 2-3 weeks. It started to get intense and I started masturbating all the time so I found Nofap to help with that. Switched to PMO hard mode but only on day 5.

Not sure what kind of porn you are consuming or how often but I wonder if you can take your recovery in stages. Feel good about small victories and your success will fuel future success.

Good luck.

 

I can support that goal. I am guessing a lot of the advice from this community is to remove it altogether, but I can see watching porn and masturbating less as a great improvement. You can feel good about wanting to make a change in your life.

Something to try -- switch around when you are viewing and masturbating (i.e. if you usually PMO late at night while drinking try doing it first thing in the morning after a shower, or if you only consume porn while you are feeling tired, depressed or anxious, try doing it when you are feeling great) Might be good to try and break the habits that surround your addiction.

1 Day meeting your goal is not a failure, it is progress.

 

Got it.

I was confused your phrasing 'not do nothing' and 'not do none' made it seem like you had different goals.

Sounds like you are trying to quit porn and masturbation to help with ED. Hopefully you have a supportive partner who understands what you are going through and can appreciate all of your efforts.

Luckily there are many healthy sexual activities you can do to please your partner (oral, manual) while you are rebooting. Not sure if you use condoms, but I found they desensitize my genitals so much it is hard to maintain erection. Possible to look into birth control and see if that helps.

Good luck on 7 day challenge.

 

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