Is porn really not like real sex?

Yes , YES it's so different but it's soooooooo much better , I went on a 20 day streak and lost m V-card and it's nothing like porn , honestly the weird thing is you don't finish as fast as you think you will which is good .

 

It aren't the positions and sex that they are referring to.


porn isn't just 2 people having sex and filmed it takes usually a few times to get it right so they usually shoot a few minutes of the video and then do it again you constantly stop when you are having sex. Could you imagine that? Having sex few minutes stopping to take pictures and so on.

or shooting 5 minutes than pausing then going back and so on.. its nothing like real sex its performance. Do you stop at sex after a few minutes and do something else?


so yeah thats why those "orgasmes" are fake with most woman at porn. They don’t climax at all because to climax you need to keep the same ritme.


But most importantly there is no foreplay no tension built up In real life
you start sex with touching her and flirting and escalating something that will not happen at porn. The foreplay is something you will never see at porn.

That’s something that bothers me with porn no foreplay. Olso like i mentioned most woman are faking orgasme if you watch it.

 

Porn has got nothing to do with sex, love or intimacy. Most of it these days is about power, control and domination with an inherrent anger. I'm lucky enough to be able to compare PMO to when I did have a girlfriend and the two are quite far removed. Real sex is sometimes clumsy, hot, sticky, smelly but you also have the sensation of closeness, staring into your partners eyes, exploring eachother, trust, foreplay, love and respect. Some of the small nuances that make up a real intimate encounter with a real partner simply cannot be replicated by just viewing a picture or watching a video. Penetration is really a small part of love making, a lot of it is made up from stuff like just laying there with your partner and enjoying 'being together' or 'playing' with each other there are a lot of emotions involved with another person and it's a two way street with boundaries. Porn is a one way street with no real boundaries except the ones you place in your own mind, the porn video isn't suddenly going to stop and say 'I have a headache' or 'i'm just not feeling up to it right now'

 

Average size of men's private part is 4-6 inches and in porn, you can see 11-12 inches. Breast size of women are of breast implants. How many pornstar like women can we see in our daily life? Absolutly none. Nothing is real in porn. Its an illusion and fictional.

 

Porn is fantasy, plain and simple. The performers aren't simply messing around and having a good time, they are doing what looks appeal and faking pleasure. I'd encourage you to read an article of what it is like for the perspective of porn stars. I've read descriptions that describe it as awkward, doing unnatural things naked in a room full of people behind the camera. It's shot and edited to make it look fun and natural, but it's anything but.

The first time I had real sex, I had high expectations from porn. Thankfully, I liked the person I was with, so the emotional intimacy was great, but the kissing was messy, the blow job felt like nothing compared to my hand (still working on death grip), and once I got the condom on I lost my erection and couldn't finish. I was expecting it to be effortless and intensely pleasurable, and because of my porn habit, it was just awkward and embarrassing.

After some getting used to it, I ended up having good sex. It was still messy and awkward. Neither of us had perfect bodies. Getting the condom was still an interruption. It smelled like latex and lube. We got tired and out of breath from seemingly mundane positions. We had to start and stop a few times. We even laughed about how awkward things were. However, once we got into the zone and had an emotional connection, it was way better than anything porn ever offered me.

If you expect sex to be like porn, you're not going to enjoy sex. Porn is to sex as romance movies are to love. It skips over anything that's not beautiful, but in that way, it kind of misses the point.

 

Although I have no experience, this is so beautifully summed up and perfect comparisons.

 

Real sex is messy, uncoordinated, and everyone you have sex with has different likes and dislikes.

Amateur porn is more like real sex,since couples or people who arent porn actors are the ones who record it

 

Imagine you and your partner have to carry a big, wobbly plate of jello (or jelly) through a obstacle course and get as much of it past the finish line as possible. Along the way there will be bits of jello falling off and flying every where, and you will have a pure laugh about it and bits may require a little concentration or maybe a little give and take and then, you pass the finish line and you hug , high fives and kisses. Proper teamwork effort, mutually reassuring shit when done in the first person as a shared experience.
Now imaging a tv program of people doing the same thing - pretty shit as an onlooker.
Nothing at all will prepare you for your first time, the single most important thing to be brushing up or practising on is not your technique, or how you want it to go down on the night, but your sense of humour and compassion. Because your lucky partner wants to feel good, like they made the right choice in you, and NO-ONE likes a self obsessed lover. Porn just makes you self obsessed.

 

In my opinion porn is just you (the user) seeking out instant gratification. There's no work put in. You ever worked a job when you wanted to buy something for yourself, and while working you suffered but thought "This is going to be worth it when I finally buy ____". It's exactly the same. Love is a process that takes time and effort and it goes both ways. In the process you'll find that making love to a woman you love and care about is a way to express your emotions and cater to hers. Whereas in Porn you're seeking out vile, disgusting material which only escalates and becomes worse and is a waste of time.

The part that makes it difficult to quit is Brain Fog & the way your brain is currently wired. I'm going to assume you're a virgin from the question you asked. When I had sex for the first time, I had totally gone limp down there. There is a good chance you have PIED too, as well. Please start now and change your life for the better friend.

 

Reading all these great responses reminds me of just how completely f***ed porn is compared to real-life connection, and how I want nothing to do with it ever again.

 

Real sex is certainly better than porn. If you're on the same page it can be very enjoyable because there's no stress or fear, just fun. Man I really miss actual sex, I hate porn so much.

 

Yeah, porn is nothing like sex. Porn is a performance and usually one that involves male domination over women. Real sex is about being on the same page and sharing something mutually with the other person. Porn is also usually about extreme sexual positions and moves. In real life, most women don't and won't do most of those things. Why? Because they can be painful, uncomfortable, and humiliating. Sometimes women will want to experiment with things, but that's usually only after building a lot of trust with their partner.

Good news is: basic positions feel amazing. And sex is better with someone you genuinely care about.

 

If this were taught in school, I think people would grow up to be a lot happier.