Is it possible to stop ogling women IRL? Any tips?

I stared at pretty girls all my life. When driving I would usually look inside of the car next to me to see if a pretty girl was driving. I could never stop myself from looking and checking out women on the street.

I do not do that anymore. I keep custody of my eyes. I still want to look at times but I don't have to look with God's help.

With God all things are possible.

 

Me trying to practice looking without lusting is like a recovering alcoholic trying to practice drinking without getting drunk.

So I don't give myself permission to look, period. And my wife is perfectly happy with that stance

 

Try and remind yourself that these women don't have anything to do with you, and are not available to you, so to ogle them is only to torture yourself over them. Why do we have this idea of sexual access, such that we see a woman and think immediately that we can have her? There must be an element of brainwashing going on there if you really think about it. Break the brainwashing and understand that these women are dressing this way only because they want to, not because they're making themselves available to you in any way, shape, or form. Then it becomes a question of how much do you want to tempt yourself with something you won't be able to enjoy, and the only logical answer is "not much."

 

i am glad you are bringing this up as i have had this issue for a long time.

i am not sure that it's under control, but in my hour long walks in weekends i started implementing and training myself to not look anymore after noticing that "that person is here" and bringing to my consciousness something else about where i was, look away in the distance. letting that person do what they have to do.

it got better, that i am sure of. but i still have progress to do.