I've abstained from mustarbation for 18 days. I become confident more and more. As most of people say, my ability for work and social life increase very well. I can deal with my work not being tired so much. I go to the party and contact attractive lady by SNS and have dinner although I haven't dated those lady for 5 years. It's almost miracle for me!! I have a question for all people in this thread. I try to keep abstained from mustarbation for 120 days. But if I get the girlfriend, how do you avoid sex? I'm very terrible to reset because I can't deal with lots of work or another task without rebooting. At the same time I want to cherish my girlfriends if we feel we want to sex.
From my understanding is this isn't some anti sex thing. If you got a lady I say go ahead and do your thing. I don't think having sex resets your counter. Someone correct me if I'm wrong.
Thank you so much for reliable comment so quickly. I've lots of thread about rebooting and PMO. Some people set the goal of rebooting for getting attractive lady. On the other hand my motivation of rebooting is get over my hell work. Because my job doesn't have answer for all of people. Unlimited scold happen everyday. I need more energy my life. That is why I start rebooting. On the way I met very attractive lady who has nice balance intelligence and tendency. I became to think both work and girlfriends is needed for my life.
If those are your goals then go ahead man. If you think stopping masturbation will help you obtain them then that's awesome!
A big objective for me here is to enable PIV+O once more like before being sucked into the destructive PMO cycle. My minimum is to stop all P - and to only O with a partner. I don't really know about M with a partner but solo M is a reboot and a fail for sure. This is just me and my little journey. My heart goes out to all of you who are going through this. This is so tough.
It depends on the level of your addiction, if you have ED then you must abstain from sex too! But if you can get an erection while having sex with your GF then you can enjoy it. Just make sure you don't use pills to get erection. Also if you think about porn while having sex then its wrong and affects you. It is still similar to PMO! keep visiting yourbrainonporn.com and pay attention to scientific aspects!
I know man, I'm in a committed 3 year relationship. Been on this NF thing for a bit now, I seem to be more intimate with her, however there have been times where I would O and feel guilty for the time I put in, but I realize the whole point of PMO is get just get away from P and M and to O with a partner. As far as I'm concerned it feels great, I feel like I'm back to where I should be, and I have no desire for P and M. Resisting the M just makes me want her more. Basically, i decided to no longer feel guilty, not longer avoid sex, just avoid the M. P is way out of the picture now, has been for almost 2 months, the relationship is no longer threatened by it. Its the M that screws it up, but thats been going well for sometime now. Having a partner does help the reboot, it does help reconnect with a human and the feel you get from you them. So i say enjoy it, but don't go for it all the time, I still try to avoid over doing it, so i just please her while I still reboot but keeping away from O. Once a while is fine for me, i feel that I've earned it lol if that makes any sense.
Hard boot just hasn't appealed to me, although it is a very reasonable approach for many here. My personal experience is that my GF has given me incalculable love and support during my NF journey. Frankly we've been having passionate sex every weekend during the past 33 days of my PMO-free experience, and it has simply resulted in some of the most wonderful intimacy that I will ever experience in my life. After all, I'm looking to reestablish myself with her anyway, so lovemaking is a natural part of my recovery. My BIG news is that I orgasmed last night PIV!!!!! This was this first time in 5+ years for me. Honestly, I think a miracle has just happened, and I owe most of it to NoFap and the good men on this extraordinary site. Bless you all!
