Is it ok to bottom

It’s your reboot and your rules. Do what will make you the most successful in your journey. Does your partner know about your reboot? If you find it leads you to temptation I would take a break from it and talk to your partner about why you need to take that break. If they care and respect you they usually always understand and will offer support.

 

I would say that anything “real” is okay. By real I mean, real life sex real life touching, bonding etc...

Sex isn’t the problem, porn is the problem. So yes I would say it’s okay to engage in sexual activity. As long as it isn’t Porn related, such as acting out Porn fantasies or fetishes...

 

I completely agree with @NF4L, I have different opinion than @GhostWriter. Your brain can still reboot while being sexually active with your partner and doing so wouldn't be like building upon an existing foundation, it would be more like changing your foundation while you're on it, so it may take more time. Intimacy with a partner is not the problem, it's P that's the problem. However, it may be a faster reboot if you do take some time (you get to choose how much) to avoid bottoming.

 

The brain is more plastic, it changes slowly and less like concrete/foundation.

I won't even waste my time looking up any of that. Do you deny that P is the underlying problem? O or Bottoming is not the underlying problem, it is P.

Thank you for acknowledging it

 

https://www.nofap.com/rebooting/

"Although we at NoFap may have our recommendations on effective ways to reboot, no two people will have the same rebooting experience. In fact, people choose to reboot in many different ways, all of them valid." (Emphasis added.)

"NoFap’s users challenge themselves to abstain from a variety of behaviors. While at its core rebooting involves abstaining from artificial sexual stimulation, namely the use of pornography, users apply that principle using their own set of parameters for a challenge." (Emphasis added.)

"PM-Mode is a set of parameters where the rebooter abstains from both pornography and masturbation, but allows themselves to engage in sex and have orgasms. This is a popular choice among rebooters who have partners or are otherwise sexually active... we speculate that the occasional bath of dopamine PM-Mode that rebooters experience when having sex may make for a slower reboot."

"Abstaining from PMO altogether includes barring orgasms with another person...Rebooters with partners can still do Hard Mode, but will want to get their partner’s on board with the idea of abstaining from sex or learning non-orgasmic sexual techniques." (Emphasis added.)

 

Interesting question. Hummmmm?

 

You are free to touch yourself during sex. It is not the act of pleasuring yourself that you are trying to eliminate. It’s the fact that you, like all of us here are chronically And mindlessly using a hand to gratify an addiction.

 

So true. And I know I would want my partner to use his hands on me so I can enjoy it.
It’s great u two have such a good sexual relationship. That’s a lot of bottoming for the week.

Thanks for sharing.
How are thing going at home tonight?
Chris
Los Angeles