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Is it normal to feel indifferent towards women?

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by Digg217, Jan 14, 2016.

  1. Jan 14, 2016 #1
    Digg217

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    The title says it all. I'm finishing my third week going strong with nofap. I've read a lot posts in other forums about how guys no longer see women as objects, and feel like they can connect with women better than ever before.

    Right now, I feel completely indifferent towards their gender, almost like they're a sort of ethnicity that I don't dislike, but don't like either. Who knows, maybe this is part of my rebooting process, or I'm just a fag and I don't know it yet. Meh, I'm not gay, I have felt a distance growing between myself and women though.

    Before I started nofap, I often felt kinda desperate when I was around women, and I felt like they picked up on it. Either I was trying too hard, or I just wasn't trying hard enough because I was trying to avoid trying too hard.

    I continue to feel attraction to women, and since I began no M I feel more comfortable when I talk to women, I even feel tingly when in proximity to one (no matter how attractive or unattractive she may be), but I sense that I'm holding back...and won't allow myself to pursue them. It's like I'm at a high school dance, and all I can do is smile and talk while most of the other people are grinding on the dance floor.

    About a week after I started no M, I made a goal for myself to go celabate until March 1st. It seemed like every day was different from the last, and 60 days struck me as a good amount of time to allow myself to "balance" out. Any thoughts are appreciated, thanks for reading!
     
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  2. Jan 14, 2016 #2
    scote73

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    You may be in the midst of a flatline. I'm no good at definitions, or explaining terms, so I'd suggest looking it up in the glossary.

    Regardless, it looks to me that you are on the right track. I remember that tingly feeling that I got when I was in the middle of a good streak. You're starting to see women as women, and not objects. Keep it up!
     
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  3. Jan 14, 2016 #3
    cud

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    Dont worry at all. Give it some time and dont push yourself into some harsh plans (this 1st March celibate thing i mean) - well thats at least my advice, cause you cannot predict how you gonna feel tomorrow. But this happened to me as well - totally indiferent to every women on the street, everywhere. It took ... idk about 30 days :D - sounds difficult but it is just 30 days :D...well that is my experience, everyone is different in those things.

    Dont worry process is working but it is not overnight!

    Keep up!
     
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    You don't even know how frustrating is all this mate!
     
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  5. Jan 14, 2016 #5
    avatarivn

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    Perhaps, its a low-intensity form of a flatline, or its just your brain trying to adapt to the new no-PMO lifestyle (a lifestyle that rocks BTW). And let's face it, feeling indifferent to women is a WAY BETTER than being anxious and insecure around them.

    In any case, you are going the right way if you have kept a streak of 60 days. I believe that more changes will come in time, as most people say that they still see benefits even after 90 days or more. If being uninterested to woman is still a problem for you, it is for you to decide to do something about it or not.
     
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  6. Jan 14, 2016 #6
    XPiRED

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    That struck a cord with me. I can definitely relate to that. Thanks for sharing :)
     
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