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Is it even possible to get rid of a non porn induced fetish?

Discussion in 'Compulsive Sexual Behavior' started by fumaruu, Jul 14, 2022.

  1. Jul 14, 2022 #1
    fumaruu

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    My whole life has been this fat fetish. I remember that being the first thing I looked up when I first had access to the internet. Now I'm 24, have had this fetish forever, escalated to everything, consumed tons of content, joined gay communities, Fried my brain to the point where it doesn't even know what real love is, I'm just a complete mess.
    I developed this fetish from an experience during kindergarden.. and I fucking hate it !!!!!!
    If I can't get rid of that Bs I rather die to be honest. Is that possible? Or an I doomed to life like this? I hate who I am.
     
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  2. Jul 14, 2022 #2
    kropo82

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    Why do you hate it?
     
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  3. Jul 14, 2022 #3
    fumaruu

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    I just hate it bro. I can't even get hard for a normal women. Never watched normal porn only this fetish BS. I don't mind slightly curvy women, but during my sessions I'd watch 500lb+ women and even men. I'm disgusted with myself and even more depressed knowing that this came from a childhood experience. I never watched anything else, while others where out with their girlfriends I was at home consuming bizarre fetish content, severely addicted. I just want to be normal, marry a normal woman and produce children...
     
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  4. Jul 14, 2022 #4
    kropo82

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    Definitely cut out the porn. That's making things worse and making things escalate in ways you cannot control. But, once you are porn free and can face your own inner self with calm pride you may find that you still have some aspects of this fetish. That's fine.
     
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  5. Jul 14, 2022 #5
    badajoz1982

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    Be kind to yourself bud.

    I have some fetishes I'd prefer not to have. I'm 35 days without PMO and my fetishes are under control. When you stop porn, your fetishes will be more like just preferences, not in any way affecting anything you do. When you get a sexual thought, it will be about normal things. You'll learn to respect yourself.
     
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  6. Jul 14, 2022 #6
    fumaruu

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    I really hope so man. I want to explore healthy sexuality and let go of all the fetish thoughts that I have. My sexual awakening has been this fetish. So im afraid that its hardwired in my brain by now..
     
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  7. Jul 14, 2022 #7
    fumaruu

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    My fetish is totally under control. But what makes me anxious is the fear of not being able to get aroused by anything else. I feel like normal sex doesnt do anything for me. And this fetish is so unrealistic and dangerous that I rather not have it. It might be brain fog, or might be escalation, I dont know. But knowing that i had this ever sine kindergarden frightens me
     
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  8. Jul 14, 2022 #8
    badajoz1982

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    If that feeling of being frightened is real and it doesn't go away after you've given nofap a real shot, then maybe some type of counselling would help you to work things out, but I absolutely am convinced that when you take control of your sexual energy, you'll use it in a way that makes you feel safe and happy and your problem will be so small you won't give it the time of day.
     
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  9. Jul 14, 2022 #9
    Sabalan

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    Honestly, I don't know whether you will ever truly be able to 'erase' your fetish. It's like people who have recovered from addictions - the neural pathways are still there, and that's why relapse is so easy.

    But with a proper reboot, and then M/O only without the fetish P, you've got every chance of having that normal sex life you crave.
     
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