Internet Dating isn't Your Only Option.

Women are very difficult to talk to online, at least for me. Thank God there are a lot who come into my work that I can talk to. I don't struggle in the real world. I swear I would rather ask 100 women for their phone numbers in person than have to mess with sending an online message. They just never reply, and I've been trying for years. Before you go scolding or trying to teach me a lesson, I need you to understand, it's been over a decade. I was on my yearbook back in the day. They replied back then. I was young once. Women online just don't give me the time of day anymore. I can be super forward, super laid back, anywhere in between. Even if I've met them in person and it's just on facebook, they ghost me or ignore me no matter what I do. Don't even get me started on Tinder. I did that for two months and eventually matched with one porn-bot. Then after several more weeks I matched with another bot. I look fine, my profile isn't polarizing or extreme, my female friends (coworkers) checked it over and said everything looks great. It's just like a joke, I had a moment of doubt and forgot how much I bring to the table. I do fine with women in real life, and if you are still reading this and you struggle with online dating all I can tell you is get out there and go talk to them in real life. Face your fear again and again and again and it gets easier. I don't give a damn about quarantine either, there are plenty of people out and about. I was on the town today- even the pawn shops and coffee shops were open. Go hit on cute gals/guys at the grocery store. It's actually not bad advice. I work in liquor and can't wait until Friday when I work again. I'm going to talk to lots of women, and sharpen my social skills. Oh also, go for the most intimidating ones you can find. That will destroy your fear faster.

 

I believe that tinder is perhaps rigged against men, or at least men over a certain age (I am 31) after swiping on hundreds of women of all types I didn't find a single real person to talk to. I could have swiped on 1,000 or more; all body types all ages all levels of attractiveness. At one point I swiped yes to every single woman. Nothing. I believe my profile was top notch, and showed me at my best. Hell yeah dude, talking to girls in real life is so so so much more fun, I mean, it's actually possible haha. I couldn't get a damn conversation let alone a date with that bullshit.

 

I just started reading the book "The Game" by Strauss, but I'm not too far into it. What have you learned? I am VERY discouraged today, but have been better overall since starting my current streak. Flatline is beating me to a piss today. In any case, I would be interested in your story because I'm new to it. Please tell me all you can.

 

Hey dude, thanks for the suggestion. I don't think I'll read much more after I finish the game, two will have been enough books for me I think. I agree that real world attempts are what matter. To answer your question, I have made 11 attempts in the last five years which I understand is my main problem. I understand that I need to make a lot more attempts and not take the rejection so personally when it happens. I need to figure out how to deal with rejection better, because it seems to take too big of a bite out of me. I just posted this thread a couple hours ago, please give me more insight if you don't mind. https://forum.nofap.com/index.php?threads/need-help-coping-with-rejection.274645/

 

I am dedicated to making lots of attempts. I am making as many as I possibly can at this point, almost every day at my job. I am new to putting myself out there and I have lots of questions- how do you deal with rejection? I am worried that too much rejection is getting the best of me. It has to be better to try and fail than to preserve my ego by not asking at all. I don't know who to talk to about this so any advice would be noted, I guess I don't know where else to turn.

 

Yes indeed that was the whole point of the post