Inevitability

I'm struck today by the inevitability of both recovery and addiction. If that sounds paradoxical I bet it's cause it is
That's what I'm seeing is they are both inevitable. It maybe a better way to say it is "you never can tell" like that song.
I know people who have not had to use any form of p or m or sex with more than one person for more than twenty five years, one of whom tried unsuccessfully to get that freedom for almost a decade on which time he slipped at least 1150 times, but now things have been very different for a very long time. I know other people who have been trying for more than fifteen years and still haven't found what they're looking for, like that song.
I tried for almost a decade, and they were plenty of times it seemed best to just stop trying, there was no point it seemed. And I look back on a lot of what I tried as not good ideas but now I'm thinking that the thought pattern "if only I hadn't wasted time on that" is very flawed. How could we know that time was wasted. A human is like a huge experiment, and maybe the nuances of "treatment x for two years then treatment c for half a year then a high dose of z for 4, ..." Might mean it's all necessary or even exactly on time. Like a child, so much of what children do that adults think is bad is age appropriate, at least for that child that year. And skills they seemed so behind on they might suddenly shoot ahead at. I was reading about someone famous recently who failed early and often and seemed like they would be a failure all their life but after a third sudden switch of life focus all of a sudden became one of the best in the world at that new endeavor. It's like that with recovery I think, anyone who keeps trying will eventually break through somehow.
And addiction is inevitable too: if you work at it you can become a pm+ addict someday