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Imagine this...

Discussion in 'Porn Addiction' started by ac1909, Jan 20, 2018.

  1. ac1909

    ac1909 Fapstronaut

    Last night i had a relapse again, not with explicit porn like usualy but started with porn subs and then went on to nude women and gifs. I remember this is how i started my porn use many years ago, then with time i started watching actual porn videos. So i KNOW the behavior and fetishes escalate. But even after relapsing, my porn brain tells me “Whats so bad about a nude girl?”

    Well today i talked to my parents about it and my mom put this example, which was kind of disturbing but did make me think; Imagine if one day youre gonna watch porn or whatever and then you see your mom on there. Now this is suggesting shes physically beautiful and perfect for the industry. So they offer her massive amounts of money and well she poses naked for a photo or video. Now this is what my mom told me, but what if it was your wife, youur girlfriend, your best friend, your daughter even?? Someone you really care about, exposing themself conpletely for the pleasure of thousands of other men or whoever who literally dont know her. Imagine them fapping to the photos, sharing them, posting it on social mdia and making dirty comments about what theyd do to her or whatever. Imagine seeing all this about this one person you KNOW and CARE about and LOVE. What would you think of them? or just in general?

    So i started to think about my relapse last night. I didnt watch porn videos but all those nude photos and videos i saw, thise women have hearts too. Theyre not objects made for our pleasure. Theyre humans, equal to us guys, with ideas, emotions, feelings, etc. Those girls i saw, thats what they have. But I dont want to view them as sex objects. I want to be able to view any woman, hot or not for what they really are. I domt want to continue my conduct selfishly taking advantage of these women who want to expose themselves for some reason unknown to us, and feed off of that. I should feed off the connections i make with real women, real friendships and values.

    Ive spoken about this before but putting in place someone you know and love in the place of that porn star you always watch, makes you think. It would be inconceivable for us to be ok with them being viewed only for their bodies rather than their self.

    So even though p-subs may be attractive to our brain, it still portrays the same image as porn does.

    Heres to the 30 day challenge take two
     
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  2. Hopefulgirl

    Hopefulgirl Fapstronaut

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    Wow that is so wonderful that you have such an honest relationship with your mom. Amazing! One thing that has helped my husband with his recovery is learning about how the P industry directly relates to violence against women, rape, human trafficking, child trafficking, child p, and the total oppression of women. We read one statistic that 90% of girls in porn say they did not enjoy nor want to be in the porn they were in. Also, the average age at death of a p star is 37. Think about that. Every click contributes to this. Think what would happen if people started thinking of the domino effect of their actions and how change could happen. Thankfully, you and many here on NF are stoping their contributions to the horrible underbelly of P. I wish you continued success.
     
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  3. ac1909

    ac1909 Fapstronaut

    Yes i conpletely agree, my dad also mentioned the legal side of everything and how behavior can escalate to illegal things and to harrass other women like all the allegations going around today. Its not worth going to jail for something selfish and not being able to control yourself.

    But i do agree with our use basically promoting the industry and being okay with everything that happens behind the scenes. Its not real...
     
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