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I'm quitting porn, but I'm not so sure on quitting masturbation

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by nickthekick, Jan 15, 2014.

  1. Jan 15, 2014 #1
    nickthekick

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    This is my first post here on nofap. Currently I'm about 5 days in of not watching porn, well, kind of. I did watch Blackswan last night and wow. Natalie Portman. Just wow.

    Here I am at 2:34 a.m. not able to sleep because of insomnia. But here's where I'm at right now.

    I was able to not masturbate for two days after having not watched porn for 3 days, and when I finally did masturbate, it felt like I was 11 again. You know. The extreme sensitivity. The fantasy. The need to be inside a girl. It was all there. Also, I have been extremely attracted to this coworker girl, and after three days of no porn it was like I was being physically pulled to her. To accompany that pull, I received a couple of ridiculously good feeling erections when I got close to her. I love that feeling, and I want more of it.

    Hence, I'm doing noFap for these reasons. I want to quit porn. I want to have more sex with real women. I want to feel confident again. I want to fall in love. I believe that somewhere in this journey of noFap I'll be able to achieve some of these goals.

    But here's the thing. So I definitely want to quit porn. I've tried before, but then I just relapse not because of an urge; rather, I relapse because of boredom and the thought that "Shit, might as well since I don't have a girlfriend." I get the no porn thing. Now that I've seen some of the health benefits described by some Fapstronauts, I want those too.

    But can I still have all of the health benefits of a "reboot of no masturbation and porn" as opposed to a "reboot of only no porn"?

    Got any experiences or places where I can get this knowledge from?
     
    nickthekick, Jan 15, 2014
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  2. Jan 15, 2014 #2
    aron

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    When I started this I wanted to stay away from porn AND masturbation, only to relapse to masturbation two and a half weeks later. At this point I said to myself that I am actually fighting porn, and masturbation would be allowed. Since from that moment, since I gave myself permission to fail and masturbate, you know what happened? I stopped failing. I did nothing else just to not be hard on myself and allow me to fail.

    Remember we are fighting the porn addiction, but because we cannot masturbate without porn we wrongly assume that masturbation is in itself wrong in a certain way. I would say go ahead and masturbate, but if you find you cannot do it without looking or even imagining and dreaming about it then they are so interdependent in your mind that you should then stop both for at least 30 days.

    Before it will be better it will become worse. It will become hard, expect it, want it, because after those days are gone you will see the improvements.

    I also recommend learning about porn addiction and how to prepare for withdrawals: http://www.nofap.org/forum/showthread.php?3549-Action!-or-not!!!-Have-you-actually-Prepared-for-it and http://www.nofap.org/forum/showthread.php?2402-Get-educated-get-tools-and-learn-to-love-withdrawals

    Good luck on your journey.
     
    aron, Jan 15, 2014
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  3. Jan 15, 2014 #3
    Harold

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    Good luck for you, I agree that porn is the real evil we are fighting. Damn, even monkeys do masturbate.
    Still I will try to quit both, while recovering.
     
    Harold, Jan 15, 2014
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  4. Jan 15, 2014 #4
    nickthekick

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    I think that I'm going to cut down on masturbation, but not eliminate it entirely. Maybe like once every three days. It's going to be hard because I'm used to doing it like 5+ times/day.

    I think through eliminating porn and acquiring self-control through limited masturbation I can get through this.

    Thanks all.
     
    nickthekick, Jan 15, 2014
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