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Discussion in 'New to NoFap' started by Jeremiah12:5, Jan 11, 2019.

  1. Jan 11, 2019 #1
    Jeremiah12:5

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    Hey. I've bee struggling with porn and masturbation since around the age of 12, 21 now. I've been actively battling this for around 2-3 years. I have set up a lot of practical steps in not following into porn (Covenant eyes, accountability with friends, having no internet access on my phone due to restrictions, etc). I believe the longest I went without PMO was 120 days roughly last spring. Now its been about staying clean for 2 weeks or so and then falling back into it.

    I finally came to this website from a friend. I don't know what I am missing, but I am missing something. I believe I have made progress in fighting porn, but still have not made the full climb over the mountain. So I guess I'm here, like everyone else, because I need help and I do not know where to start. I believe my next steps should probably be focused on setting goals (I'm thinking the 90 day challenge-hard mode) and tracking my triggers and other thoughts in a journal. I also might think that porn plays a deeper emotional root than I want to admit. I need help! I want to never watch porn again, thank you.
     
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  2. Jan 11, 2019 #2
    Septimus

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    Welcome! I'm glad you're here. I hope you keep coming back.

    My link below may help. Also, take time to explore this site. Lots of help all over it.
     
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  3. Jan 12, 2019 #3
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    Thanks!
     
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    That’s the best two options right there. Journaling will be a tremendous help. There are plenty of nice and knowledgeable people here to help along the way. Best of luck to ya! Stay strong :)
     
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  5. Jan 12, 2019 #5
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    Thank you!!! Means a lot
     
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    Welcome! Is that Machu Pikachu in your avatar?
     
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  7. Jan 12, 2019 #7
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    Wow Jeremiah, just WOW! Four months with no porn, edging, masturbation or orgasm is phenomenal man! Kudos to you!

    Yet you say: I need help and I do not know where to start! Of course, I understand that a relapse can occur after a long and successful streak. This happened to me five weeks ago. :oops: But I just went back to what I was doing before. It is not that something stopped working for either of us. It is just that sexual urges are strong and we can stumble. But it doesn't mean that everything is lost and that those strategies are rendered ineffective suddenly. Nevertheless, we can strengthen our resolve, revisit our motivation and introduce extra features to ensure success.

    I also want to add that the face-to-face accountability you have with friends is very powerful. Are some of them struggling with masturbation and porn also? If so, it is good to create a positive kind of peer pressure. :)
    This is an interesting insight and may be the key to really moving past this addiction. What kind of porn have you been watching and masturbating to? Sometimes, clues are to be found there, when you identify what you crave.
     
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  8. Jan 13, 2019 #8
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    Yes!
     
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  9. Jan 13, 2019 #9
    Jeremiah12:5

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    This is very helpful thank you! Yes I think I knew that stumbling hurt me and that what i was doing before was working, but I think i just let it crushed me. Thank you for the reminder, very encouraging! And yes I do have face-to-face accountability which has probably been the biggest game changer. And yeah I guess i have not really dove into the type/kind of porn I have been watching, do you have any tips in this area? Thanks again!
     
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