Im lost

I have had sex with a few girls but never enjoyed the sensation of penetration or oral sex. This scares me because i have wanted to connect to someone in an intimate way and ive never have. I am a recovering porn addict and I frequently masturbated to porn before I started my 16 day streak. But I just recently stopped masturbating with my imagination. I just recently had a bad experience with a girl i was trying to have sex with during this period. This was about 3days ago I couldn’t stay erect during intercourse. She stopped tlking to because of this. Im in a mindset where im afraid to try to be intimate with any one because of this. Can anyone offer advice?