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I'm gonna do this. Need help and advice

Discussion in 'Porn Addiction' started by ImGonnaDoThis4628, Jul 30, 2018.

  1. ImGonnaDoThis4628

    ImGonnaDoThis4628 Fapstronaut

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    Hey all. I am currently watching porn about 2-3 times a week. Usually only about for 5 minutes. Which is a quick video and masturbation. But I do not want it in my life. I once was able to quit for a full year. But with my new marriage, a baby on the way and purchasing a house all within 2 years I was stressed to the end and fell into depression and anxiety. I have the worlds best wife who knows these issues and understands and trust that I am fighting it. But lately I feel I have just been failing too much.
    Now having depression and anxiety which I am on medication for 2 years, i have a great job with a great company and able to maintain my life. But anytime I get depressed or anxious, watching the porn immediately follows. I understand the pathways the brain is use to etc. But I want to break free from it completely. I feel terrible guilt and shame when I watch it. I hate myself for it. Looking forward to your guys responses.
     
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  2. Arnuld

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    Step number one complete. Admitting that you have a problem. Welcome. My advice seek professional help. It makes all the difference. I really wish I would have done it sooner. This is a very difficult addiction to break alone.
     
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  3. ImGonnaDoThis4628

    ImGonnaDoThis4628 Fapstronaut

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    Thank you Arnuld, I've acknowledged it's been a problem for about 4 years now. My usage is dramatically lower then what it use to be. But I want it gone completely. I think it's wrong for your healthy, morally, whatever way I believe it's wrong.
    I am seeing a therapist that is talking to me about the issues.. what kind of professional help are you referring too?
     
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  4. Arnuld

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    Just referring to seeing a therapist. Glad to hear that you’ve got one already. It helps a ton. I’m with you. It’s not healthy. It is immoral. Its a narcotic just like other drugs.
     
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  5. It's great that your wife knows and understands what is going on. I would also suggest talking with her anytime you are feeling this.
     
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  6. ImGonnaDoThis4628

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    Thanks Freddie, and I've noticed if I'm having a urge I run to my wife hoping she wants to have sex, even if the urge is to watch porn. And everytime, not kidding everytime we have sex the urge to watch porn goes away
     
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  7. RndyBm

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    This gives me hope. Because that to me, sounds like the real thing is 1000% better than a digital screen and your hand. Good luck on your journey man, I'm serious on quitting too.
     
  8. ImGonnaDoThis4628

    ImGonnaDoThis4628 Fapstronaut

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    I'm extremely blessed RNDY to have the wife I have, I would not be in a good place if it wasn't for her. And just a piece of advice, dont let the lie that marriage will heal porn addiction, it does not, the urges are still their. Fight it now
     
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  9. RndyBm

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    Great advice. Thank you for your reply. Now is my time to fight. For my future's sake.
     

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