I'm getting nowhere, maybe I'm a POS

Discussion in 'Problematic Sexual Behavior' started by GA93JDeereboy, May 31, 2019.

  1. GA93JDeereboy

    GA93JDeereboy Fapstronaut

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    Been months or so since I posted here.
    I'm still screwing up. Same stuff. Porn and escorts. I'm like really not getting anywhere with this. I want to be somebody, help people, meet a good lady. I think I messed that up with God how i didn't keep a promise to quit and i messed up so i may never meet anyone.
     
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  3. girlfriendofm

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    As a girlfriend of someone who saw escorts and/or lots of porn you can do it. You aren’t a POS. Get back at it. Say no to the escorts. They will ruin your life in the long run? How can you get a good girl whom you’d have to disclose you have an STD? Don’t do escorts. Have you tried dating apps and other things? Be confident! Women LOVE confidence!
     
  4. GA93JDeereboy

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    Only site I would try is eharmony.
    I feel I'm not worthy
     
  5. GA93JDeereboy

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    Sometimes I think If I can find someone to be with she could help me push out of it. I've never been with anyone
     
  6. girlfriendofm

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    You should push yourself out if it first. I promise you, going into a relationship or dating and still seeing escorts is not the way to go. Secrets get out eventually. You want to go into someone knowing fully it’s them that you want, sexually and emotionally. You will find someone. Don’t do eharmony. Try something else. Plenty of fish actually works quite well! Go out and meet someone! I promise you can do it.
     
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  7. GA93JDeereboy

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    I'm not sure on the ratio if men to women. But when I was in a dating app, idk, I would say hey to many profiles but rarly did I get a reply if it wasn't a scammer or someone wanting money.
    But maybe I need to ditch this meetme app I am in and head to POF
     
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  8. Jackb97

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    POS = Prisoner of sex.
     
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    If anyone here has quit the escorts how did u quit? Idk what keeps driving me into them. When I get bored and have freetime I waste it. Whe . I'm busy working i am preoccupied so i don't go to it.
     
  11. briguy71

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    I have the same issue as you.. from Monday to friday i work so im busy and i dont feel the need to contact escorts.. im single and have no kids so on the weekends when i have free time is when im tempted to contact escorts... ive considered getting a part time job on the weekends to keep me busy have you given any thought to this?
     
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  12. GA93JDeereboy

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    I don't work like typical 9-5 job. Sometimes I go out to work for a month or so at a time and take few days off of whatnot. I haven't seen one in maybe 2 months now. So I don't really see them as often a some other people. But I have wound up wasting alot of my time, on my phone sifting thru trash and texting, some calling, blocking. Repeat. I'm just going to find my path in life. When I feel tempted I'll have to post here or contact some of you guys or something so I don't go to it. But yesterday I kept busy, and that made it alot better. I'd rather tip the waitress good then spend it in an escort.

    Some claim that you save money with am escort vs a girlfriend. I disagree. I don't spend hundreds or even one hundred dollars on a date. I don't go out much but when I do, it can be even less then $50 to go out to eat so yea, an escort isn't cheaper. Even if your guaranteed to get laid, just no intimacy and if you do hook up with a chick who isn't an escort, I found it 1000x better experience. Even with paying for a so called "GFE" It ain't worth it.

    And thx guys whom reached out to me!
     
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  13. DiFaaprio

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    You want to help people the first person you should help is yourself brother, whenver you get the urge to open the app, flick thru pics know that it will inevitably lead you to contacting the E and remember the feeling of a POS you will get once finished
     
  14. B1257

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    The journey isn’t an easy one. I have wrestled with escorts for a while. Massage parlours too. Everything.

    Like any addiction it can be fixed it just requires work. Stay strong brother!!
     
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  15. need4realchg

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    Hey bud , I know what you mean. Plus when E are so cheap where you are it makes it easier to plan for it.

    I don’t disagree fear of std is real but fear is proven to not work to deter anyone from having sexual relations when they are focused on defeating some other emotional issue.

    Uncover the issue that is driving you. Be more self aware.

    Also I have this challenge when I travel. I have A girl who wants me to see her like a regular relationship. I am trying to disconnect from all of this but I realize this is a problem caused by many roots.
     
  16. GA93JDeereboy

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    Thx guys for support. I'm still struggling. I'm not meeting up with these escorts much but it's still an issue. That and I look up escort porn. Idk why. It's my fetish or something. Idk why is me paying some chick make me a little horny? Whether we do it or not? But it isn't the way I like sex. I like it intimate. But then I like it like in a porn. But that hasn't happened to me.

    Could me having this type of fetish be because this type of sex is mainly all I've ever experienced? If I had met a lady old fashioned way in the beginning instead of thru a website and texting then paying, that may have caused me to be so attached to this crap.

    I deleted all my dating apps. To me it's a waste of time. And you see some chicks advising p2p, pay to play? Wtf is up with people?
    I don't see sex as something people should buy? Does anyone say otherwise?
    Some say it's the oldest profession. That doesn't make it ok does it?

    I mean it's just so easy no to do meet an escort. You don't even have to talk to some of these chicks, just text them. Makes me wonder how many women are escorting compared to those who aren't?
    And how many guys are seeing them.
     
  17. need4realchg

    need4realchg Fapstronaut

    Buddy news flash.... this is not about sex. Repeating —-Not about sex. You aren’t really seeking sex.

    You are GETTING sex, but that’s not what’s driving you. What’s driving is an emotional need. Loneliness, intimacy , companionship, boredom, hunger, sleepy, lazy , etc. It’s likely not a damn thing to do with a sexual need.

    You could say this is called sexual entertainment ...

    Escorts are people to talk to. Guaranteed. No rejection.

    That’s what you pay for.

    You have sex because it’s how the profession markets itself. Hell, a million products are sold using hot women though.

    I am not beating you up either I have the SAME damn challenge...u do too — just ask yourself how do you feel right before you look for an escort?? What emotion ?
     
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