I'm afraid of becoming misogynist

What we must remember is women should be women and men should be men. Men should not try to change women because of their selfish desires and women should do the same when it comes to men.

It is important that a man knows his true nature, what fuels him, his beliefs and core values. He must work hard, better himself everyday, not for the sake of getting laid or pleasing a woman, but for his own good. Once he finds his true identity, his purpose in life, his true core values, good women and quality women will be attracted to him.

 

The good thing is that you realise developing misogynistic attitudes would be really bad for you, and you're a bit worried about it.

It's normal and okay for guys to feel some resentments about some of the things they think are tough in life for guys. Fair enough. We can disagree about various aspects of feminism, and many women do too.

But broadly speaking, of 100 assholes in the world, 90 of them are guys. Guys are the ones who are going to rob you, cheat you or piss against your front door. The great majority of guys are fine, but women are something like 95%+ fine, which may be part of the reason you've had a lot of female friends in the past. Misogyny makes no sense.

I think the best way to guard against misogyny is to remember the *individual* women you've known and loved or liked. Your mother, your sisters, your girlfriends, your friends, your teachers, your colleagues. They're all different, you won't have liked every one of those people, but there are lots of things to like and admire about most of them. You can't just put them in a big dustbin and resent the entire group. And you can't say "they're different, it's *other* women who are bad". No. Those women are not different. Women everywhere are not unlike the set of women you've known.

Stay away from porn, and stay away from anything like MGTOW. I think that's crap that drags men down just like porn does.

Most of all, I think the important thing to remember is this. Women don't hate us. Many women think aspects of life are unfair to them, and they're often right. You need to remember how recently they got to vote. Most women hate men *being assholes* (like being violent, addicted, cheating, rapey, misogynist etc). But they actually love men, and love it when we're proud, positive, sexy and masculine. They love and get the hots for solid, good men.

Lesbians like good men better too, and are more likely to introduce us to their straight friends.

The answer is always to go high, and be a better man. Your view of life from up there is better, and you get laid more.