If I get a girlfriend everything will be better?

TL;DR
no.

 

Addiction doesn't work this way. You'll have a girlfriend or wife, but the urge to do what you should not do is likely to remain. Relationships are about giving of yourself. Success is all in your attitude toward life.

 

If you do not fix yourself first then you won't be capable of having a healthy relationship.

 

That's actually a no. Why? Because the greatest relationship you can have is with yourself. If you don't love yourself, then why should the girl of your dreams love you then?

How the Law of Attraction works is that you can't attract things based on what you want. You can only attract based on who you are. So for example, if you have bad self esteem, then you'll attract girls who feel the same way and vice versa. Even if you do attract that special someone; then chances are, that relationship will probably fail shortly after.

So my advice to you is to work on yourself first. Forget about having a relationship with another person until you can have a stable relationship with yourself. Then I can guarentee that love will come once you start to love yourself.

How about you start going to the gym and making some gains that way, you will make yourself more attractive to the girlies. Or how about you start eating healthier and incorporating more fruits, veggies, nuts, legumes, etc. Ditch the processed junk and start eating whole foods. There are plenty of other factors when it comes to living healthy and happily.

So, in conclusion, start working on yourself first and making yourself more attractive. Practice self love, and someday, you will get the love that you deserve.

-Captain Rex

 

A girlfriend should be a welcome addition to an already secure man, not as a female to use in order to patch up insecurities.

 

It seems counterintuitive, but its not, I've had a woman pick up on me at a bar because she said she saw that I was "happy". Yep, that same night I saw her naked.

 

No
Source: got a GF, still was a lazy, depressed loser

 

Definitely not mate!
I remember those few short-lived flings/Romances I had when younger and simultaneously PMO:ing a few times a week. There is no chance I would have changed a lot (at least not to the better) if any of those girls became my girlfriend at the time. I was so mentally damaged, needy, desperate and lost that I am glad I didn't take my misery into any of their lives.
Remember, that in order to attract the good women out there (and other people too for that matter), you got to be confident, grounded and satisfied on your own first. Any relationship that begins because either part wants or needs something from the other one (that they haven't acquired on their own) is doomed to go sour after some time or remain semi-dead for years.

I have known plenty of those people over the years and just by watching how they react when the break-up hits shows their level of insecurity, neediness and unwillingness to work with themselves and develop as a person. Mainly because it takes a lot of hard effort and pain that most people prefer to bail-out instead, hence living a life with constant neediness, fear, and anxiety for that special someone to be taken away from them.
Self-improvement is the best and most honorable service you can do to yourself and others!

 

The girlfriend can help but you must fix your issues first. Stop fapping... I destroyed my relationship with that...

 

If you for example have PIED a girlfriend can increase your ressure to heal

 

That’s not true at all. I was even married for 7 years and the urge didn’t die down one bit.

 

my life well be better cause i choose for it to be better i myself well be better, i dont depend on another person for anything, or have a false belief they well make everything better for me, im single, i desire a partner very strongly but im actually not lonely or sad i just desire a partner, im remaining single for awhile, focus on building myself an building my nofap count up

 

You could think that if you got a girlfriend everything will be better.....

or....

You could think that if you create a better life and a better self, then things like getting a girlfriend becomes a natural consequence of the better life and person that you've created.

Wherever you go there you are. It doesn't matter who you're with, what you have, or what you're doing. The lens of which you filter life is how you'll experience everything.

 

i believe i well be getting a girlfriend so i can share, not because i need or depend on them but so i can share the love in my heart an my life,the life i shaped myself when i was on my own,

 

if a great architect falls for another great architect can you image the paradise they would construct together fueled with that love they kept growing in theyre hearts

 

OTHER THAN MOST USERS HERE CLAIM...

...I can tell you that in my case it actually did become easier with a relationship, as you have one more reason not to fap. The reason is not "sexual release" though, it is mainly not damaging our relationship, as I have learned about that the hard way in the past. If porn can damage your relationship, it is likely your relationship status can as well affect your recovery. Sex alone wouldn't be enough for that, though.

I am completely aware of loving myself and everything. Nevertheless, there still is a difference between loving yourself and loving your girlfriend. If there was no such difference only people with a lack of self-love would enter relationships, which is not the case. Moreover, I am not only giving love, I am also taking it (at least the love he is offering to me).

Still, it might be different for everyone. But I can say that my relapse frequency decreased dramatically since I've been in a relationship.

 

Hey man. I think that being happy with yourself is good and important. Though, it is vital to look for someone and meet new people. It can make you happier than you are now.