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I think im addicted and it led to unwanted femboy fetish

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by Redtree24, Jun 22, 2023.

  1. Redtree24

    Redtree24 Fapstronaut

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    I'm new so I think this is the right section. Ok, let me start this off with saying I'm a teen guy and started watching porn at 11. Until recently, like the past 6-12 months, I've been reaching for more stuff that's in the genre of femboy and other non-straight stuff. I know it was bad when i fantasized a few times to "very gay" scenarios with femboys (which makes me disgusted in myself), i know I'm straight but I end up getting off to it (femboys) more than women. I hate it. I dont hate gays but id never be with a guy or want to be with one. I know it's an addiction and I need help to stop it. I've read a few stories and I think the addiction is causing me to change into diving into all of this wild stuff. I do not want to continue this path or have this be in my life. Please give some tips to starting to stop all of this and go back to my normal self (normal as in mental health + sexuality).
     
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  2. Believe2Achieve

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    Porn addiction can definitely lead to escalating into things that are unnatural for the addict, things that are not meant to to arouse you but due to desensitization and seeking more extreme porn, you condition yourself to become aroused to extreme porn.

    First off, you must be able to identify if this is porn induced or not, with all your time in life, how would you answer these questions;

    1. Have you ever been sexually or romantically attracted to men irl? How about women?

    2. When you first started watching porn, did it begin with this content? Or did it gradually get deeper and deeper to this point?

    3. When you watch this content, do you feel naturally turned on, or do you feel you are getting turned on by the taboo/forbidden aspect, like it’s wrong to be watching it and that’s what is getting you off?

    4. When you orgasm, how do you feel after? Do you feel relaxed and alright, or do you feel a immediate sense of repulsion and disgust followed by shame and confusion?
     
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  3. Redtree24

    Redtree24 Fapstronaut

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    Yeah, I've never been attracted to men or ever wanted a romantic relationship with one. This developed within the past 6-12 months over years as I said. I feel that immediate sense afterwards too, and I hate everything about it. So, I do think that it is caused from desensitization and watching so much. Any tips to start avoiding and stopping watching porn altogether so I can get back to my normal self? Also ty for the reply, much appreciated
     
    Last edited: Jun 22, 2023
  4. Believe2Achieve

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    No problem bro, I’ve also dealt with extreme porn escalation.

    First things first, you need to make quitting porn your number 1 priority. Everyone is different, but I recommend you take it one day at a time. Start planning your days so you can be more productive and make it so you don’t have time to PMO. Some time killers I found to use when I have free time is going to the gym or hanging out with friends, that way I’m always out of the house doing something instead of sitting home with temptation trying to get me.

    When it comes down to the porn induced tastes, first you should read up Your Brain on Porn, lots of good information there about porn addiction, and also it gets specific related to topics such as this. Basically you abused porn and got desensitized, so you sought out more extreme porn, you aren’t actually attracted to the stuff you’re watching, more so you use the forbidden/taboo aspect to get off, it’s wrong and that’s what is turning you on. This is fundamentally sexual conditioning, so porn has conditioned this into you, it is not natural to you, but the brain is nueroplastic, which means it can change and adapt, you can return your brain back to normal. So from this point on you can no longer reinforce this conditioning porn has created whatsoever, you cannot go watch extreme porn, if you get thoughts about it, don’t engage with those thoughts, the conditioning will weaken and starve as you are no longer reinforcing it, and your brain’s dopamine levels will start to balance back out, and things that are natural to you will start to turn you on again, and then you must rewire, rewire your brain to get off to natural things to you. In my personal journey, every time I lapse, I keep it very vanilla, and this has helped my brain to gradually rewire back to normal things and the extreme stuff becomes more and more repulsive and weird, showing me that my brain is reversing back to normal. Most people don’t recommend this, but if you are gonna lapse, better to lapse to something natural then to the extreme stuff. Obviously rewiring with sex with a women is the best way to rewire, but I also think it’s important to gradually de escalate your porn/fantasy tastes first, just personal opinion.

    Start doing research, realize that this happens to a lot of people, and porn is a new problem that has yet to be recognized. Get up and start fighting now, you can either choose porn or your full potential in life.
     
  5. Redtree24

    Redtree24 Fapstronaut

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    Once again, I just want to say I appreciate your response and feedback. I've taken it upon myself and made the decision it needs to stop. Although not a very big time frame, it's a been a full day, and that is a start. I will take your advice to further educate myself on the topic and continue to distance myself from prn. Also, would you be fine with sticking around on this thread in case I need to ask a question or give an update? Anyways, thanks again
     
  6. Believe2Achieve

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    Yeah sure bro, Porn has fucked me up in so many ways, I want to help myself and as many people get out of it as possible, it’s pure poison for our brains.

    Good shit on one day, just remember, take it 1 day at a time, it’s not all about having a long streak, more so it’s about trying to reduce porn as much as possible. For example, you can go on 2 15 day streaks back to back, and you feel like shit because you failed 2 streaks, but in reality you only watched porn twice in one month, which is a huge improvement, and gradually you should aim to be completely free from porn.

    If I ever miss a question or you just want to read up on my story and where I’m at, here’s my thread, if I miss a question or something you need to say, just go here and I’ll see it guaranteed.

    https://forum.nofap.com/index.php?threads/i-will-overcome-porn-addiction.348621/
     
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  7. Redtree24

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    @Believe2Achieve

    The filter keeps blocking my reply so I'm just gonna keep it simple: I remember reading your article at like 1 am a few days ago before I even had an account, so I guess it sort of helped push me to start this journey. I reread and have major respect, it also helps me really notice this is an issue real people deal with (i.e. I've only really seen articles talk about it with extreme stuff). I wish you the best of luck on your journey. Anyways, day 2, I'm still very determined but got urges. I resisted them, so off to day 3.
     

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