I feel like the urges were too strong and that the promise of pleasure was too appealing.Whatever,I am feeling like a failure.What should I do next?
You're not a faiure, you've made a ton of progress, imo reset to 21 days and go from there, one days relapse objectively speaking has not reversed 22 days of healing so we shouldn't act like it has, you want to have the strongest mentality possible, resetting to day 1 is very hard mentally and might have you give up to an extent, you might fap for a few days again before a longer streak, but you'll fight harder if you only think you've lost one day vs losing all the days of rebooting.
You're learning a skill. Lets call it "living without porn". You've aced it for three weeks. You failed today. You choose to jump to the conclusion that because you've failed once, you will never hone this skill. You could just as easily jump to the conclusions that because you've succeeded for 21 days, you can also succeed for 31 days. Then 41. Then 141. Just get back in there, and quit being all dramatic about it. I believe in you.
Buddy, I haven't even got to 5 days without PMO lol ( I'm only rebooting one month or so, but still). But I already learned that relapse is not a reset. We are human beings, failure is part of the process. But don't ever think that you are back to zero. Because you are a hero! Learn from this relapse. Like for real, sit down and write what triggered you, what you need to change, and then get up start again until you make it. I believe in you!
You are not on the begining again, the mind has been change with all those days without pmo , just don't do a binge section cause all the progress can be erase with that. Keep going