Hello guys. It's my 11th day since i stopped PMO. Let me give you a quick details before i ask for your help. I have been struggling with PMO for 15-16 years. I'm 29 yo now. Before i start this "nofap" thing , i did not know that i have this kind of problems because of PMO. I thought it was because of smoking pot. I smoke for like 10-12 years. When i was child i was very talktive , funny and social. But then things start to get awkard. I became anti-social. I was smoking with 2-3 of my friend and doing nothing. I was having problems with making new friends. I was having problems with my "friends" . Anyway lets get to the point. I had girlfriend for 5 years. Last 2 years i was using some kind of drug called " Jamaican Gold" . It fucked up my life. I was like a ghost all the time and did not pay any attention to my girlfriend at all. Then she broke up with me and i stopped to use that drug. But i was smoking pot anyways. After 6-7 months we got back together. She gave me a second chance. But i fucked up again. I was thinking that those things happened because of my drug addiction. Anyway before 11 days i relaize that "pot" was not my only problem. I was like that because of PMO addiction. I was having erection problems , premature ejaculation and many more problems. Now i have hope. After i read all coments from here and also from youtube; I think i can change this situation. The problem is ; before "nofap" i was very addictive to porn and masturbate. In the first days of nofap i was feeling very energetic i was feeling very alive because i think finally my depression will go away. As i said its now 11th day. I'm not feeling well anymore. Still im making fantasies about girls that i saw at gym or at street. I did not look any porn or a girl with lingerie. But i cannot stop that thinking about fantasies. And now since i'm thinking that i will go better; im thinking to write to my-ex girlfriend. But i dont know what to say to her Should i go like " IM changed , i found the problem inside me , everything will be okay ! give me another chance! "... Seriously my mind is so fucked up right now. And im feeling more depressed than before. PS:IM using Prozac everyday. Please give me an advice about my ex , and my depression which im feeling atm. Should i go back to her ? We had so much memories together. And i still love her. Thank you in advance.
Focus on yourself right now. The last thing you want is to get a third chance before you know for sure you are sticking to this and getting better. As far as getting better goes, you will, and it might take much longer than you would expect. I have had a very similar experience to you. Girlfriend of 5 years, thought pot was the problem. It took me a year of rebooting to get back to normal. Stick it out and keep fighting. Things will get better.
Do no PMO and the fucks given and depression go down to zero. You got this man! We'll be here every step of the way!
day 12: today i woke up with morning wood. i feel like i'm gonna lose my mind now. I'm horny as fuck i want to PMO but i will not ! I'll try to stay strong ! Still i have social anxiety. Still i cannot talk with girls but at least i started to talk with other guys aswell. Before i was shy to say hi. Next step is talking to girls i think
Inflake, take a step back and focus on no pmo you just have now realized what your problem was and now is, now you have to be resolved and critical of how to better yourself that's solely what you need to do. Create new better habits, establisb regular routine, set some new goals this year, month, weeks, go out of your comfort zone cold showers helped me out a lot and eating healthy and exercising and You will get better just like what Sludge said. Stick on what your best at when you always smoked weed and but do it without it if it's writing, creating music, playing an instrument just be occupied.
Thank you for your reply. Yes first things firts i need to focus on my pmo habbit. The thing is i crave sex so much and today i send a message to my ex. We broke up 7-8 months ago. She did not answer as i expected. Today i dont feel good. I feel more depressed than before. I feel more lonely than before. I dont know what to do or how i spend my time. I'm working 8 hours as reservation agent. When i dont have anything to do , my exgirlfriend coming to my mind. I still cannot get over it. I still have feelings , still love her. Maybe thats why i dont give chance to other girls. Before "nofap" when i was struggling with depression and etc. i was thinking to suicide. The only cause i didnt is ; my family and my cat. I dont want them to get sad for the rest of their lives after i die. Now i dont feel like suiciding maybe because of medications that im taking ( Prozac ) But as i said before today i feel like i hit the bottom. My motivation is gone. Hope i will get better.
Your Your motivation will come back after enough days just have to play the waiting game my man. You have a new chance at everything at life, but first you have to take care of yourself first man. Talk to somebody that you trust to be there for you when your triggered to even pmo. Whatever the case may be. About your relationship situation man, go with your gut feeling on this one. If it's time to move on, then she'll tell you man. If there's a chance make the best of it. Make the most of your time, meditation got through to me. Talk with your therapist about depression, it could be about anything man ask the psychiatrist about it ask them anything whats on your mind or on their mind. Good luck, i know you can do it, stay strong!
