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Discussion in 'Porn-Induced Sexual Dysfunctions' started by Free your mind, Feb 23, 2020.

  1. Feb 23, 2020 #1
    Free your mind

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    There is a complete story in "new members" forum, but it is long so I decided to put this here as it concerns PIED, which I obviously have.

    In short: I was almost cured after about 130 days. Had sex without ED drug, even orgasm during vaginal sex. My libido was back.
    Relapsed after 162 days due to loneliness, sadness, anger - binged last saturday - 2xPMO (hardcore transexual stuff). 4 days after in a bed with a girl Im in love with, but very stressed and tired...Took Kamagra (sildenafil 100mg) barely got it up, it went down after few minutes again (masturbated to orgasm after that without porn - I could cum normally). Again no libido, no morning erections (I got a semi last night).
    I have history of performance anxiety (always with a new girl).

    - How much harm to my brain did I do with this 1 relapse (2xPMO)? Can that return me to the start or would I need fewer days for my libido tu return? I know that noone can say exactly, but at least some experience.
    - Is it possible that my last inability to maintain erection last time was due to stress and anxiety, not because of that relapse?
    - Would it be helpful to avoid contact with that girl for some time again or would it be better to continue contacts like making out, watching movies together and so on, without sex?
     
    Free your mind, Feb 23, 2020
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  2. Feb 23, 2020 #2
    Mordobarn

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    Without cutting open your brain, it's impossible to know. But, it's certain that you did at least some harm.
    Almost certainly a combination of both.
    While I cannot be certain, I strongly believe that going hard mode (no PMO) would be your fastest route. You don't need to avoid contact with the girl.

    Take it easy, one minute at a time; worry only about the present when you're with her. If something should happen, take it slow, one step at a time, and back off every time either she or you feel uncomfortable. Don't put any stress on yourself. If nothing happens, that's cool. If something happens and you flop, that's also cool. If something happens and you don't flop, that too is cool.
     
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  3. Feb 23, 2020 #3
    Free your mind

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    Thanks! All of that makes sense. Im just freaking out as I was so close and blew it. Now Im even more anxious.
    Hope that it will be better soon.
    Anyone has some experience with such a situation?
     
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  4. Feb 23, 2020 #4
    Mordobarn

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    Well, I've had the occasional situation where I haven't performed due to anxiety. Shrug your shoulders, because it passes. Stop worrying about it, because that just feeds the anxiety. Having problems has a name — it's called "being human" :) Seriously, stop worrying, and just enjoy the moment.
     
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