Hi everyone, I am a 21 year old male who struggles with a porn and masterbation addiction. I want to liberate myself from this disease, but this is only possible when I have a solid support network in place. I began watching porn when I was 12, so the addiction has come on and off since then. I want to recover because I no longer wish to damage my brain further off of porn. I hope I can get better.
You can get better. And you can find a solid support network here. By seeking those things, you have taken the most important first steps on the road to recovery: acknowledging you have a problem, deciding to do something about it, and connecting with a like-minded group for support and accountability. It's a long road, in the sense that the work of sobriety never really ends, but it's a short one too, in the sense that each day is a new opportunity for positive growth so long as you move in the right direction. Right now, while this work is new for you, try to focus on the short term: today; work through today, hour by hour, as best you can without porn; then repeat tomorrow. The end goal - a life free of this mental garbage - can be your inspiration, but focus now on the moment and give yourself credit for the progress made; for each hour without porn is better than an hour with porn. Any time you find yourself using a device connected to the Internet, try to make visiting this website the first and last thing you do. This will help you feel more accountable for your online behavior, and it will get you in the habit of reading and learning from the experience of others along this road. You can do this, one step at a time. All the best, Sandpaper
Welcome to the movement. This is YOUR recovery and you must own it. You may be familiar with other addiction recovery programs. The first 90 days of these programs require meeting everyday for the first 90 days of recovery. I suggest visiting and contributing to NoFap each of your first 90 days. Glean wisdom from the strong, encourage the new, and be wary of those who are negative and make excuses. Add the words of your struggle to those of others and help create this wonderful narrative of transformation. I have made my NoFap time a replacement for all web surfing and social media. Be wary of depending on technology like counters and web filters - the battle is between your ears more so than between your legs. Each time you are tempted to go to that foul place, you must remember the man you are working to become, and then choose to be in control. Do not allow porn to steal another second of your life. Invictus William Ernest Henley, 1849 - 1903 Out of the night that covers me, Black as the Pit from pole to pole, I thank whatever gods may be For my unconquerable soul. In the fell clutch of circumstance I have not winced nor cried aloud. Under the bludgeonings of chance My head is bloody, but unbowed. Beyond this place of wrath and tears Looms but the Horror of the shade, And yet the menace of the years Finds, and shall find, me unafraid. It matters not how strait the gate, How charged with punishments the scroll, I am the master of my fate: I am the captain of my soul Be Strong my Friend.
