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I need opinions on this, please

Discussion in 'Porn Addiction' started by Dares Greeneye, Feb 13, 2022.

  1. Guys, here is what I'm thinking and I could use a feedback from anybody. I've been MO clean for over 6 months now and I know I can control myself when it comes to that. However my big problem is porn. It's causing my urges for P go crazy at times and it's really hard to manage, while it's actually the worst of the trio when it comes to it's detrimental effects to ones health. My whole person is affected by it physically, emotionally, spiritually, and I really really really need to find a way out.

    If I could regulate MOing to once per 14 days, maybe it would help me to overcome porn and lower my urges for it, because the current state is simply slowly draining me. I'm not going to make excuses, but I'm single and we are sexual beings, I can't just try to exclude that area of my life completely, even if just for a limited time before I find a partner. Yes, I should try to find different means to get that satisfaction, and I'm on my way as I will probably go on a date in the summer with this one girl and see how things will be, we're currently talking about it with each other. And so this MO idea is supposed to be only temporary solution to help me to get on a streak of NoP, as porn is parasiting on me for years now and it's a daily struggle. I know it's not original, I know people have tried to do it that way thousand times before me, but at the same time the factor here is that I've not encountered another person on this forum so far whose streaks were so completely divided between P and MO as mine, with one going for over half a year while another can't get through a few days.

    I wont act on this out of nowhere just because I'm horny, my libido was functional all those 6 months, but I think it's something to consider and I'm willing to discuss it.

    Note: Yes, I don't masturbate when watching porn, it's all about dopamine dose in my case
     
  2. It may help you to ask yourself what you really need in the time of strong urges.
    For example:
    Do you need safety?
    Somebody to talk to?
    A father? A mother?
    Warmth?
    Love?
    A hug from somebody who cares about you?
     
  3. I crave intimacy. A romantic relationship. Hugs, caressing, kissing, holding hand, looking into each other eyes, listening to each other... all that. Porn doesn't stand a chance in such case, even though I get urges to watch it at such time.

    I talk to my folks when I'm having urges and also use a great variety of other approaches and tools, but the urges were hitting me hard lately. So I'm looking for a new way, but this particular one is not something I want to throw myself in without hearing what other people here who are struggling/used to struggle think.

    Thanks for your reply :emoji_slight_smile:
     
    Roady likes this.
  4. I think you should find something to substitute porn
     
  5. During the time I've been on NoFap I've improved my lifestyle by building healthy habbits. I have other things to do, be it mandatory or fun activities; one could say I'm never bored and yet not preoccupied at the same time. I'm also not watching nearly as much porn as I used to and while replacing it with healthier substitutes limited it, it always strikes at the end.
     
  6. Well I think its not an addiction because its easy to quit you have to strive for it but hope we all at the end of the day get done with this addiction
     
  7. Oh, if you meant replacing P addiction with some other, then that's not my intention. Either way, thanks for your opinion.
     
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