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Discussion in 'Rebooting in a Relationship' started by StefyUchiha, Sep 30, 2017.

  1. StefyUchiha

    StefyUchiha Fapstronaut

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    Hi ! I’m a 16 year old boy . I’ve been struggling for a long tine with depression . Somehow , I’ve managed to get an 18 year old girlfriend ( we’ve been togehter for 3 months ) . She’s way smarter than me and superrior in every way possible . The point is that she’s had so much sex since she was 16 , that now she’s kinda bored of it , but she tells me all the time about all the guys she’s had sex with . We’ve did our share of perverted things , but never had sex and she doesn’t seem that she would like to have in the near future . We have an open relationship , so , in theory , I could have sex with someome else . But I’m not able to do it , because I hate myself => I have no self esteem => no girl is attracted to guys who have no self esteem . I do all I can to boost up my self esteem , but nothing works . And worse , I’ve become addicted to the dopamine released from masturbating too much , so now I’m even sadder . And I don’t know how to stop masturbating : I do it al least 5 times a day . Could you help me ?
     
  2. Johns80

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    This makes me really sad. No way should a 16 and 18 year old be tired of sex already. This is why kids shouldn't be exposed to such things so young. The point of sex is to be closer to someone you care about.

    But, I'd say to post in the main forum to get some advice from guys who can tell you what's working for them.

    I think this thread is more geared toward advice about navigating reboot concerns while in a relationship.

    Good luck to you. :)
     
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  3. I'm sorry you're going through this.

    Huh! Says who? Does she tell you that? Or do you just think that? Either it's not good. There shouldn't be any room for superiority in a relationship.

    If you're cynically depressed you should seek medical advise from a fully trained doctor. If you just have moments when you feel down you should practise meditation, go on walks/runs, try to surround yourself with positivity, maybe get a pet (these things might help even if you're cynically depressed). There's a good book I read on depression called How Hard It Really Is and you can find out about it here. The book is written with great honesty by someone who struggled and still struggles with depression.

    This girl sounds like she's no good for you. You need someone who won't bring you down. I've been with an older woman myself and it's ok if they view you as an equal, but if not it can be bad. From the sounds of things she doesn't view as her equal, it sounds like she has zero respect for you. A relationship should be a partnership not some sort of competition. IDK but maybe you'd be better off staying single for now.
     
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  4. phuck-porn!

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    A couple things @StefyUchiha ,
    1-Try to get the girl out of your head. It's not normal for her to be telling you about all her other guys. She's got issues. You've got issues. Issues X issues = sad times.

    2- dude you gotta work on YOU. That bad self esteem is being locked in place by jacking off 5 times a day. It's harsh, but it's true. You gotta get that under control. It will seem hard, but plug in on the teen forum here and you can do it

    3- take life slower man! You got lots of time. Give yourself a break.

    Best of luck.
     
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  5. StefyUchiha

    StefyUchiha Fapstronaut

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    Thanks ! It means a lot to me that someonoe would take their time to reply !
     
  6. StefyUchiha

    StefyUchiha Fapstronaut

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    Thank you !!!
     

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