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Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by BlackSad, May 6, 2014.

  1. May 6, 2014 #1
    BlackSad

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    Hiii, my name is Damian and I'm 19. I'm in porn since 4 years ago and i'ts ruining my life. Some months ago I had a girlfriend but when we started having sex i couldn't last more than 2 or 3 minutes (I don't know if it was due to porn or not) and because of that she left me. Since then I started masturbating with much more frequence, and now it's really affecting my life. The worst thing is that every time I'm feeling less pleasure in masturbating but I can't leave it. I tried many times to leave porn but I only hold a maximum of 2 or 3 days. But I will not surrender. I'm going to keep trying. Maybe you people can help me giving me advice or anything that helps me to leave porn. Now I am holding 2 days without porn but i'ts really hard. I'm going to write my progress in the next days. I hope this works.

    Thanks.
     
    BlackSad, May 6, 2014
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  2. May 6, 2014 #2
    wowwhathappend

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    You could block it. If not its will power and support. If you are still together with the girl ask her to call you in the morning and tell you that you should be as strong as yesterday and not fall in to the cravings. 2-3 minutes is not unusual, but remember that sticking you dick in and moving you hips is just a fraction of what sex is. Kiss her, cuddle her, whisper to her, show your love for her and suddenly 2-3 minutes turns into 20-30 minutes of joy.

    Best of luck :)
     
    wowwhathappend, May 6, 2014
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  3. May 6, 2014 #3
    Alexander_D

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    Lol if that's the reason she left you, for lasting ~3mins at 19, then you really dodged a bullet and are better off without her. What a b?

    Sounds like youre medicating a broken heart with porn, but it only digs you deeper into a funk. Get positive and look for a real gf :)
     
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  4. May 6, 2014 #4
    BlackSad

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    Yes I've seen the video Anon. I'ts really informative and it's the reason why I'm here.
     
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  5. May 6, 2014 #5
    BlackSad

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    Thanks for your support wowwhathappend. I didn't block the porn pages but I think I can maybe hang on and don't enter in porn webs. About the girl we are not together any more. But in the first moments of our relationship it was like you said, we were kissing all time, hugging us, doing things togheter, etc. But when we started having sex everything went wrong.
     
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  6. May 6, 2014 #6
    BlackSad

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    Thanks Alex07. I think you are right. I'm medicating my heart and trying to forget my problems with porn. I'm gonna leave porn and try to solve my problems. And of course I need another girlfriend haha. I will find someone one day.
     
    BlackSad, May 6, 2014
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  7. May 6, 2014 #7
    WhiteSoul

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    Well I'm not very experienced with relationships but I can try and help you with your challenge.

    First, get information about the addiction, as Anon already said. After that, you have to make a decision or at least set yourself a goal.

    You said you already tried a couple times? Did you have a goal (like one week/month/whatever)? Did you change anything in your life except abstaining from PMO?

    It is very important to change your whole life. I don't want you to completely be a different person, but changes in everyday life can help you. Make new plans. Start new hobbies (or continue the ones you used to do before your addiction started). You can also change your haircut, the position of furniture in your room, your clothes, your daily schedule, the way you talk to people, or anything you can imagine.

    What I want to say is that there has to be a change on many different levels. First, in your mind (the will to stop) and then in your whole life.

    I wish you the very best in life and I hope we all can succeed!
     
    WhiteSoul, May 6, 2014
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  8. May 6, 2014 #8
    Peaceful Warrior

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    Hiya, have you checked the tips section? http://www.nofap.org/tips/
    Have a read there and follow their advice it's worth it.
    also read posts her and see what works for other people and then look at incorporating them into your life.

    Wishing your success on your path

    H
     
    Peaceful Warrior, May 6, 2014
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  9. May 6, 2014 #9
    mikeg

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    Hey man, I've had the same problem with less pleasure during masturbation. I'm also around the same time span as you with out porn. WE GOT THIS RIGHT?!
     
    mikeg, May 6, 2014
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  10. May 6, 2014 #10
    Shai_Halud

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    Shai_Halud, May 6, 2014
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