I need help ASAP

Sounds like you're putting a lot of pressure on yourself, brother. And it sounds like she is too (I'm not blaming, I'm sure it's an uncomfortable experience).

Talk to her, tell her you think the ED is caused by putting pressure on yourself. Convince her its not her and that she shouldnt feel personally rejected or unattractive. Try to convince her to take it slow. Maybe fool around but with no pressure or expectation to get a boner. Eventually, when you're not even thinking about it, it'll work. It may take time, but assuming it still works generally, that will hopefully help

 

Sounds like one of life's vicious circles. But not difficult to break out of as everything sounds to be working ok physically...

I suggest you just tell your gf that she's smoking hot. And that you love her body. And explain you've just got yourself tied up in a stupid mental knot after that whiskey night, and it's made you more and more worried you can't satisfy her and made you self-conscious etc.

Then put the emphasis on her, and pleasing her. Take the emphasis away from your penis. Will she do a bit of a dance, erotic show for you. Is there new ways to go down on her etc. Choreograph something that keeps focus on pleasing her, but with you in control.

You need to feel back in control of the situation in general first, and then the guy in the barracks will come back to attention.

Just my tuppence worth... Hope it helps.

 

I am going through a very similar experience, my girlfriend can also get sensitive but I have found that going a while without self-masturbation and porn, I have much more sexual energy and I see her beauty the way I saw it when I first met her.

 

I think this is good advice. If you're focused on pleasing her, and don't worry so much about whether or not you will be pleased too, she'll probably be happy. And if you love her, naturally, when she's happy, you're probably happy as well. And then the pressure won't be so heavy, which will aid in fixing your problem.

Also, if you're in a particular situation in which you know why you're not getting it up (like with the drinking), make sure to tell her that. Don't just say "it's not you," say "it's not you, it's because I drank too much." I know that's happened in my marriage a couple times, and usually there's a good reason, and sometimes my man forgets to tell me the reason until I press for information. Like "so... why do you think that might have happened?" And then he tells me that he was super uncomfortable in the position we were in, for a long time, and got really exhausted, or something to that effect, and I'm like "well geez, why didn't you just say that!" Would have saved me from wondering if it's because of PIED, or if it was just me or something.