I keep losing, porn has messed with my perception so much. trigger words

I don't have any advice. But my feeling is that the internet has opened this dangerous portal. Like the industrial revolution, during the information age, more than one generation will suffer casualties of complete lawlessness surrounding it. It's a dark reality, but at least we know what we're up against. It's a race to the bottom of the brainstem.

 

Time to go cold turkey my friend. Watching vanilla porn to overwrite is not a solution.

You’re a human being not just a body part. That perception of yourself is porn-induced. Women (people) are interested in more than just your genitals.

Explore this site for all the tools, suggestions, and support available to assist your journey. Start now.

Stay strong.

 

I think ideally when this happens there's some people in the community that recognizes you need extra support and would spend extra time, and you or the person needing the support would make and take calls. (or meet in person but I know that's unlikely to be available) So there's the needed support, which is not guaranteed, and there has to be the willingness. You want to be free of this right, not just post to always vent. Venting is needed but it won't solve anything.

And also I do mean calls, not any form of text messages.

 

You might consider joining a group in your area or online that can help you stay off the web. A community of people with your type of experiences might help.

 

You are almost like me in the sense of being addicted to those fetishes(I am too, to some of them). It messed me up mentally as well and every day is a battle.

But the only way is cold turkey and doing more positive stuff to ourselves. There is no other option Im afraid. I wish it was easy to quit it, but it isn't. This is at least my big purpose now, to stop being an addict, for you it should too.

From your post, we have quite in common in the fetishes we are addicted to, and what it causes, so I know where you come from. You have any ideas on how to replace the addiction with more positive action? Something to keep you busy, entertained and satisfied with yourself(except all forms of porn), given your circumstances? Because I feel at least thats the best we can combat it. By being better small bit by small bit.

 

Yeah, that’s distorted. Most women don’t even want S most of the time. When they do want it they want it a lot, but when they don’t they don’t want it at all, and it’s mostly to do with their hormone cycle and not anything to do with how big a dude is.

Porn is a warped fantasy land. There’s no reality in it. Looking to it to understand how women think about relationships and bodies and sex, is like looking to a Hollywood cop show to understand guns and law enforcement and due process. It’s like watching a medical drama show to understand cancer treatment and insurance practices. I wish I knew what your real world area of expertise is, so I could spit the layman idiot version to you and you could see how absurd it is. Porn is stupid. Porn is the opposite of reality.

I have done some honest fact finding about female perspective on dick size. Outside of a porn/fetish context, most women say they don’t care at all about size unless it’s extreme, one way or the other. The majority of the ones who do say they care, who are a minority of women, don’t actually have the real world experience to know the difference. If you poll prostitutes, who have actually experienced a range, they can tell you normal sizes don’t matter. As in, the difference between four inches and eight inches is negligible. Female anatomy is pretty cool, it quickly adjusts. If both bodies are in a normal range, everything will be fine.

Women all over report emotional connection has more to do with their sexual satisfaction than size, body, muscles, etm. It has less to do with your face and body, and more with how well they feel you are into them.

Staaahhp!!! Stop with “vanilla!” It’s like saying you have to go back to straight meth to undo the stuff you mixed with fentanyl. I forgive you because addicted brain is awful, but that’s one if the stupidest ideas I’ve heard. It’s all bad. All of it. There is nothing normal about the blandest of porn.

It’s good to know what kind of porn sucks you in, because that exposes the underlying psychological needs that aren’t being met in your life but you’re in so deep, your fetishes are symptoms of the anxieties created by porn itself. You don’t even know what your real problems are. Stop watching porn.

I know it’s hard. I know porn feels like a balm to help soothe your anxieties. It’s what’s causing the anxieties in the first place. Quitting is painful. It sucks. Your brain goes crazy, it’s psychological torture and it lasts for weeks. If you can make it long enough, though, you feel better.

 

dude im probably one of the only ppl here that will understand you. i have different kinks but i know all about severe addictions. the advice you were given here are fucking bullshit. dont fucking listen to that bluepill bullshit. and yeah girls like big fucking dicks and human beings are extremely sexual. do you have any program on your computer or smartphone to help you?

 

I was into weird shit like you, watched all sorts of crap and then i was hooked onto cu*k, but I didn't give up, after a good 206 days everything was gone, no weird fantasies no cu*k fantasies at all, but then again I Relapsed , Still not addicted/liking cu*k shit. As someone who have seen what true freedom feels like I can say you need to go cold turkey, All your weird fantasies will go away even those same sex attraction, I was into TS and now I hate TS po*n. You'll get better with time.

Also please don't go on full on binge sessions that's very terrible, your literally pulling yourself more deeper into this addiction. Sorry for my English

 

Exactly what this gentleman said is 100% True, you have to go cold turkey, cut the PMO all together, it's tough but not impossible.

I'm a living example for you.