I keep Failing! Tips please!

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by Drystan, Feb 21, 2015.

  1. Drystan

    Drystan Fapstronaut

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    I have PMO'ed twice now in 12 hours.

    It seems like my brain is in some kind of ''fuck it'' mode at the moment.

    I just download K9 web protection which seems to be really good, and set a password that i wont be able to remember so i wont fiddle with the settings, but I even PMO'ed without any visual stimulation yesterday.

    Any tips, tricks or things I can do to stop myself?
     
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  2. Scorpio588

    Scorpio588 New Fapstronaut

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    Hey brother! To be completely honest with you, if you're stuck in a state of "f*ck it" you need to change your mindset to "f*ck porn!" You're on NoFap, so you know you want to change.

    Maybe you relapsed and feel like crap so you're just falling back on old habits. If that's true, STOP!!! You relapsed, but that doesn't define you! Failure builds success! Learn what you can do better, and DO it! You can, but you have to decide you will.

    As far as tips and tricks, you first have to have that desire. That drives the power behind any other actions. I sometimes just like to "detach" from technology for a while, even just most of the day can be helpful. Find some friends if you can, or just find something fun to do outside. Go on a hike. While you're doing that, think about who you want to be and what's important to you (this will fan the flame of that desire I mentioned). It's early right now, so if you want something immediate, get a good night's rest, and be ready for a new day tomorrow. A day where YOU decide WHO you are and WHAT you do. Above all, DO NOT BEAT YOURSELF UP MORE THAN NECESSARY!

    Hope some of this helps! Keep fighting, and don't give up!
     
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  3. Scorpio588

    Scorpio588 New Fapstronaut

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    I used to read this to myself a lot when I was in my hardest times, and I still have it memorized when I need it:

    Out of the night that covers me,
    Black as the Pit from pole to pole,
    I thank whatever gods may be
    For my unconquerable soul.

    In the fell clutch of circumstance
    I have not winced nor cried aloud.
    Under the bludgeonings of chance
    My head is bloody, but unbowed.

    Beyond this place of wrath and tears
    Looms but the Horror of the shade,
    And yet the menace of the years
    Finds, and shall find, me unafraid.

    It matters not how strait the gate,
    How charged with punishments the scroll.
    I am the master of my fate:
    I am the captain of my soul.
    William Ernest Henley
     
  4. ratpack

    ratpack Fapstronaut

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    Stay busy, stay social.

    Use that "emergency NoFap" app or bookmark that's on this site (not sure how to find it from my comp but I have it on my phone)
     
  5. Dorian Gray

    Dorian Gray Fapstronaut

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    take cold showers while listen to upbeat must and dance while in the shower it will change your day for the better lol no really it does
     
  6. scorpia95

    scorpia95 Fapstronaut

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    I keep telling myself that "Fapping is for the ugly un-fuckables". Works for me :)
     
  7. Alexander

    Alexander Website Admin
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    You can't rely on accountability software such as K9 to cure your porn addiction. They are simply tools, nothing more. If you want to bypass them, you have the ability to - they're mostly there to prevent your auto-pilot or an accidental click from bringing you to a porn site.

    You have to quit porn from the inside out. I would recommend:

    • Writing down all of the reasons you want to quit porn
    • Figuring out the general theme at the majority of these reasons follow, this is your higher reason
    • Create an emergency behavior - something that you do when you are feeling urges. This could be doing pushups, going for a run, playing a video game, etc. Whatever it is, it should get your mind off of PMO. Every time you feel an urge, perform this behavior.
    • Avoid your computer / smartphones at times where you are the most likely to relapse.
    • Hang out in public places. Avoid too much downtime. Fill your time with fulfilling disciplines. Learn. Read. Exercise.
    • As I just mentioned, read and exercise. These two activities will level you up in life. Read self-development books. I highly recommend starting out with "The Slight Edge".
    • Get an accountability partner.
    • Help others who are also rebooting. Come here and post often.

    Wish you all the best in your reboot. Stay strong.
     
  8. Jiten

    Jiten Fapstronaut

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    Absolutely. This isn't new to me. I have been there. Several times.
    The basic startup you need, even more important than the K9, is the motivation you have. The motivation should be a sustainable one. Our minds have become fickle due the over-indulgence to PMO, make it understand why you are into this. What good will come out of NoFap for you, and remind it how miserable you are after indulging. remember that youre an addict. Like I made a list. And I make sure I don't forget it. Visit this site regularly. That helps in orientation too. That is what will continually motivate you to stick to NoFap. Ask a friend to be your AP who you can report to.
    Orient yourself in the morning. And stay oriented through out the day.Work out. Take cold showers. Meditate, reflect in silence. Calmness of the mind plays a huge role.

    Stay clean Bro!
     
  9. Aryan

    Aryan Fapstronaut

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    I was the guy who fapped 7 times a day and destroyed many pathetic months on this.Nothing will work until you work on it.How long will you be able to resist and roam your life around nofap. Believe me the easiest time in nofap is when you forget you are in nofap.Its not just about abstaining its about improving your life in all possible aspects.
     
  10. atmatm23

    atmatm23 Fapstronaut

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    Totally agree with this. The will power that you posses is unstoppable.
     
  11. M123

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    read a book play computer game etc
     
  12. Dorian Gray

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    thumbs up for M123. violence is a substitute for porn...just don't jerk off to it.
     
  13. M123

    M123 Fapstronaut

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    thank dorian grey
    yes you need impoftment youself trust youself get good active in you live
    you realy need it you need get better people not focus on only no pmo
    when you spead alot of time with good videogame=become game master
    (smart game master NoFap bro they game is lot more impotrtant for they)
    when you spend a lot of time to good exerice you body will more powerful you helthy better
    when you spend you time about computer skill you will become better programmer
    you has lot of way to devalop youself and improfment it choose it and use it use you live time to good work
     

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