What is wrong with me this disease is out of control and I was going strong for a while and I just couldn't take it anymore I really need help I need support anybody else keep relapsing as well let me know and tips would be helpful as well
Hi @Ineedhelpbadly . Take a deep breath. We're with you and we're gonna stay here. Relapses are awful directly afterwards. It's like you just woke up from a dream where your priorities where totally different and now you've thrown out everything you worked for. We're all addicts on this site. Relapses are happening like crazy. Everybody on this site is picking themselves and dusting themselves off. We need you to start focusing on getting back into it. You made it 5 days? You'll beat that now with your next big push. Relapses teach us how close we are to failure even when we feel like we have it beat. It's a horrible thing when it happens but we learn more and more about our addiction and how to understand it. here's what you're going to do Breath deep and stop being angry at yourself. It was a slip up Trace your steps. How did it happen? What specifically left you vulnerable to the urge? How good did you feel when you were clean? Probably great, so let's get that back Go for a walk or go to the gym or hike or something to get out and get your blood going. Exercise is your friend This is a community filled with people that really want to quit this nightmare. You're a part of the community. Hang in there. We're all here for you.
What you wrote really spoke volumes to me I know that all of us here are suffering most of us are some aren't and I just want you to know that I really appreciate you taking the time to write that it matters a lot to me I just want to be the best I can be the best me that I can possibly be and with pmo unfortunately I won't be able to become the best that I can be I hope one day to just be rid of this disease that I have I want to live a normal life and be successful in everything I do I'm on vacation in Mexico and it's really nice over here and I'm not depressed as much as I was when I was in the states I'm going to be here for another 3-4 months so I just really want to focus on myself and be truly happy and not feel the need to relapse it's really hard but I feel that I can overcome it with support and I just need to read more success stories and watch more videos of people that have overcome this I really do appreciate you replying to my thread it really matters to me a lot thank you so much friend I hope that we both can achieve our goals and be truly happy
You're very welcome. We're here to help you in any way we can. We all want to get past this addiction.
Do you have access to a counsellor or any friend that you could trust and have be an advocate for you. Someone that could be there when you are feeling triggered? One of the biggest things is identifying your triggers like certain social situations, loneliness, activities, even non-porn visuals that trigger you and try to eliminate them before they become a problem. Relapses happen but when you can own up to someone and be honest it empowers you.
I don't and I think most of the people don't either. I believe that's what we're using nofap for. We're anonymous but close to one another. if you can find an AP in your age group with a similar level of addiction you can set up a messenger arrangement that is more immediate. These are all good questions and you're in the right place mentally. Keep up the good work, sir. You're on your way.
Please at least read the 1st one: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/seven-days-now-what.183685/#post-1566190 https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.p...rt-to-reach-long-streaks.189587/#post-1622848
What I have learned from my relapses (too many to count) is that thinking you are "over it" is a fool's game. Coming to terms with that, because I sooo wanted it to be over, has been a major step for me. Here is a quote from a post by @Ridley which has meant a lot to me: When does a relapse truly begin? Does it start when you open your incognito browser and start browsing porn? No, I actually think it starts long before that. A relapse starts with a simple, innocent looking idea: "I got this". It will manifest itself in lots of different ways as you tame your addiction, like these: I've abstained for long enough. I can handle just a peek (or a short session) at porn without slipping back into a full-blown addiction. I got this. My addiction has become so weak that I no longer need to stay focused on productive activities like exercise and meditation. I got this. I've gotten to a point in my addiction where I don't need to journal about it anymore. I got this. I've gotten to a point in my addiction where I don't need to handle triggers or urges with care and attention anymore. I got this. As an addict, these thoughts, if left unanswered and unchecked, will inevitably lead to the opening of your incognito browser and browsing of porn. Thus, a relapse begins the moment you convince yourself that you no longer need to stay focused on your recovery. It is important to recognize that our addiction will try to play tricks on us. Even several months into recovery (as I am), I still need to abstain from porn, continue to do healthy and productive activities, journal (or talk with a therapist), and handle triggers and urges with care and attention. Consider this post a reminder that you can't let your guard down. So long as you abstain, your addiction is weakened. However, it will try to trick you into feeding it by convincing you that it has gone to sleep forever. So, do what you can to find the techniques that work for you. Then put them into practice. Look, just the fact that you got on this site and told us about your relapse is a major step. Keep on striving. When my last relapse happened, I stayed off this site for four months, and went right back to the addiction. I am not proud of that. Above all, don't fall into the trap of giving yourself a hard time for relapsing. It digs the hole deeper. No need to be delusional, just face it, and move on. That is what you are going to have to do when the PMO desires happen anyway. Face them, and move on, like quick, like five seconds. Another comes, do it again. It is a discipline. Here is a link to one of the most powerful posts I have ever read on this site: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/100-days-how-to-overcome-pmo.182468/#post-1618197
