I have some questions for those who have been here a long time

Two reasons: because I want to repent of this sin and to be able to stand before God and say, "Yes, but I've repented of that"; also, I want to prove to myself that I am in control of my desires and temptations.

What I am trying to accomplish is look back at how my family is doing and see if there is any improvement with my wife and my kids; I do wonder how much is it my fault that we're all in such a rut.

 

That is the case, yes: I'm more of doing it for both family and God.

Doing it to prove to yourself that you're not a slave to it is just as good.

 

I would say after a while it gets easier to make the choice of not doing it but the desire is always there you just learn to live with it and deal with it in a peaceful way. When you acknowledge how you feel but simply choose the right choice.

I'm on the forum to remind myself of how bad it is and hopefully by chance I can help someone find peace. because in my opinion peace within yourself is most important since focusing on just being happy is unrealistic and setting expectations, life will always be ups and downs peace is when you deal with both sides in a healthy way. For example use your sexual energy for a greater purpose, for me I kept relapsing when nothing in my life was more important then I created a purpose for my life by just focusing on what really matters to me and it all changed.

I am trying to quit because it is right in my opinion personally. It is purity, joy and freedom from my experience whenever I was and am currently on a long streak I felt joy again like when I was a child, feel no guilt, no shame, no shackles of lust, lust is like chasing after a carrot on a stick your never get the carrot which means your never be satisfied thats not a life thats just being a slave to yourself. Remember yourself isn't the enemy but it is just sometimes your soul needs to correct your mind like a toddler having a tantrum, your mind has tantrums when it doesn't get what it wants (Dopamine rush) and whats the best way to deal with a tantrum don't give in to what it wants, hold your ground. Then your mind will start to rewire and change.

Ultimately life is a choice and frankly its only YOUR fault if it continues, also true failure is when you give up not just because you lost a battle or multiple ones. We all have the power to change our lifes. If you genuinely want to change it will happen you can't kinda want to change and be lukewarm you have to really want it. Hope I helped you, peace.

 

It lessens considerably, and becomes easier to resist with practice, but sometimes the desire flares up, so it is worth staying on top of the techniques you use to avoid porn.

It was never a need. It is up to you whether you go back to it or keep off. I worry that masturbation might lead me back to porn so I am staying clear.

Too short a period for most of us. Aim for 90, then 180, then see how you are doing.

See this post.

I want to stay vigilant, make sure that I am still doing some 'sobriety work'.

 

I've been on and off this site since 2015, so I'm not exactly a poster boy for Nofap success. However, when I'm on this site I'm much better at no PMO.

My reason for being here is to quit watching porn. When my porn addiction is raging, I could spend 2-6 hours a day watching it. As you can imagine, spending that much time on such a useless activity makes life difficult.

When I'm here, I have the tools to help me and less desire to watch porn. Instead of binging on porn everyday, I now have the occasional relapse that last about 2-hours.

Hope that helps.

 

I'm doing this so I can enjoy sex with my Fiance'. I was nearly impotent with her after 5 years and tried to find every possible physical reason there could be until I learned about P.I.E.D. After a 30 day streak sexgot WAY better, but I am a LOOOOONG way from healed. Had sex a week ago after a 79 day streak and flatline is still hitting me.

 

i feel different than I did in my first year of sobriety or my second. Generally i feel a lot of relief but not “ok I got This” . There are many things i used to obsessed with that are much less commonly passing over my mind the last few years of sobriety. I’m grateful for that.

You asked “what do you want to achieve?” I just wanted to not have to use pm+ as a drug ever again. That is definitely available to any of us.

About “ if you left it completely, why are you still here on the forum?” I don’t believe I could never act out again quite the opposite and that’s exactly why I do keep coming back : trying to be helpful helps me a lot

 

It's the most addictive drug I have ever used. It's like everything I have read about drugs, an addicted person keeps taking more and more hoping to get that initial rush that is never as good as the first time. The dopamine in our brain is crafty, I'm working on how to get it with healthier methods.
Peace