I have no friends.

It's not uncommon for friends to change or drift away. I'm lucky that I still have close friends from 55-years ago, but sadly I moved 300 miles away and I don't get to see them often. We text almost every day, but that's not a substitute for having a face-to-face meeting.

It's much harder now for me to meet new friends, but I'm trying and realize it takes a lot of effort on my part to build a new friendship.

 

I beg your pardon but what is a “stag do”?

 

I think we call that bachelor or bachelorette party in the United States: going out to party the night before the wedding, living the last day of being unmarried. At least with my own bachelor party and a friend's bachelor's party, we just drank a lot. However, I've heard a lot of people can have some crazy parties though.

 

Just go out and meet new people, and you'll learn which types you will get along with and which types to avoid. Its no guarantee you'll make friends, but its better than being completely closed off. I'm a bit of an introvert also.

 

I understand this feeling. I myself haven't had any real friends since elementary school, and even those friends changed and left on me. I've never had to plan a wedding or anything like that, so I know this is a stressful time. I've kind of given up on looking for friends. I'm nice to people and open to friendships, but 90% of people are caught up in their own lives and really don't care about others or listen to others. Everyone says to "Go out and find friends" and while that's good advice, it gets to a point to where you try too hard. I've accepted life is a lonely journey in the sense very few people will understand you. Friends will come eventually, it always happens when you stop trying. Cherish what you already have though, At least you're about to enter a marriage with (most likely) your best friend. I pray you both have a prosperous marriage now and for years to come.

 

Sorry u feel like that at a time u need to be the most happiest, but nevertheless, we only live once so duck it up and be proud with what u hold.

 

My honest advice is to just let them go. Stop pretending there's something there left to salvage. Apologies don't mean anything unless they are backed up with actions. It's better to just accept you don't have real friends, cut them loose, and move on, than waste any more time living in a delusion that things will miraculously get better. They won't.

I don't say that to be harsh. It just described my situation for the last ten years or so almost perfectly, except I don't have a partner of child. But the rest is the same. I'm "friends" with people who don't really care and don't put the effort in. They flit in and out of my life on a whim and seemingly aren't bothered that I spend the majority of my time completely by myself, lonely. They don't reply to attempts at contact unless it suits them. Me bending over backwards to accommodate them over the years has gotten me nothing.

The unfortunate reality is many people are truly selfish, and not even in a malicious way, just in an ignorant way. You'll agonise and hurt over this, they won't even think about you. Then if you say anything, they'll pretend they're sorry, and go back to the old routine as soon as your guard is down. People like this are emotionally vampiric even if they themselves don't realise it. If you make a big enough of a deal about it they'll call you needy and try to turn it back on you, act like it's your fault. Don't fall for this. Expecting the bare minimum from a friendship does not make you in the wrong. Don't let anyone tell you otherwise. Seek out new friends that actually value you and don't use you just to fill time when they're bored and not too busy ignoring you.

 

You don't have to have a stag do.

Why would you invite people you don't like to your wedding?

 

Same situation. I just work and rot at home most days. It’s sad. But I don’t really care as much anymore. It’s whatever now.

 

Maybe the best way to find friends is to join a club or group for a hobby or interest you have. Easier said than done sometimes though.