Recently I have been living alone (will be for the next 6 months.) I always had the habit of watching p**n , but now its becoming out of control. I spent 6-7 hours watching stuff online, and unable to focus on anything else. I am new to this forum, Please advise me on how to control my urges
You need to practice subtraction. Maybe download an app/program that will set limits on you device/pc
Hi @iamasinner It doesn't sound funny to put 6-7 hours on porn, I can understand that you see it as a huge problem and also a sin "because of your username". This is how I control my urges: 1. Use a blocker: I uses an app for android (not sure if it's available on IPhone) that's called "BlockerHero" and it has both saved me and helped me from not getting into porn sites during urges. It's an free app but the free version of it is very limited. I pay a small fee every month so I can take advantages of all the apps features to keep me secure from not going back to bad habits. 2. Remove or stay way from triggers: About half a year ago I decided to uninstall Instagram for example, because their filtering is garbage and much content that people uploads can feel very close to being porngraphic material, in my opinion. Which can lead to getting those urge feelings because it reminds you of porn. I also stay away from movies or games that I know have some/much sexual content in it, just because it can also trigger my urges. 3. Keep yourself busy or distracted: The ways I keep myself distracted when the urges comes is to engage in hobbies or interests I have. Listen to music, playing a video game, watching a movie or serie can also help to distract me from my urges, as long as it doesn't involve many "triggers". 4. Socializing: When I have strong urges I can call or see someone close to me just to distract me and keep my mind busy while having some good company, instead of sitting home alone and let my thoughts focus on going back to bad habits, which of course would lead to regret afterwards. These are things that works for me, hopefully this could be some help for you. I wish you luck and I'm sure your god will be able to forgive you for your sins. Keep fighting the good fight!
In my opinion, you need accountability. Yes, other habits to get into would be great, like exercising, building models, oragami, or whatever, but the best thing you can do to stop is to get an accountability partner. And when I say accountability partner, I mean an actual person you sit down with face to face and ask each other the tough questions. Online, email, and text will never cut it. SA.org/f2f is the best place to look.
Just my experience: it’s a lot easier to not masturbate (or any other ACTIONS) than to control my urges. I just saw a banner in this site that says “You don’t need to look at porn, no matter how much you want to.” That’s been my experience. It’s not the only thing, for instance i also do like Joe suggested: actual sex addicts i talk to in fact one sober sex addict friend of mine called while i was writing this. So recovery isn’t simply “don’t act out watch the thoughts” and the other stuff i know is scary but for me it started with not acting out which allowed me to see (painfully) that the urges couldn’t act out only i could.
