I had a dream having sex with my favourite porn star.

Nah. You're just doing easy mode. You're actually in a better boat than most because you're actually capable of having erections. Part of me is questioning why are you on here if you can do the things that most people on here dream about doing?

 

Well, you never asked about my entire background, which while wasn't necessary, you are kinda making broad assumptions here. I ended up with PIED from approximately 20 years of porn, masturbating to it but mostly edging. I always needed porn in my life, even during marriage, and it hurt my sex life with my wife. For the last year or two before I started my reboot, I was having extreme difficulty getting an erection for her. I had to stroke myself frantically and think of porn related fantasies to have successful sex. This was embarrassing enough, but I still didn't understand the problem. Then one day I started having trouble getting erections to porn, and I knew I had to change. I learned about NoFap a couple years prior when I cut out porn for a month just to test myself, but didn't think anything like what NoFap preached in a literal sense was even possible, so I disregarded it. But this time I knew I needed it.

A few things you mentioned that I'd like to clear up:

1) Easy mode is abstaining from porn only. PM-mode is considered normal mode, which by the way I upgraded to hard mode (no PMO) when I started practicing karezza. Maybe I'm being nitpicky in correcting your verbiage, but dismissing my situation as "easy mode" felt like an attempt to trivialize my journey.

2) Regardless of my personal experience, flatline might be common but it doesn't happen to everyone. In the hundreds of testimonials you can find on here, YBOP, YBR, Reboot Nation, etc., there is an amount of people who don't experience it.

3) I'm "actually capable of having erections" because of the work I've done on myself and the dedication to my reboot. For the first month on NoFap, I could see signs of improvement but still struggled to maintain solid erections. I was still needing manual stimulation from my wife, and the result of needing to get worked into a frenzy was premature ejaculation. Both this and my erections are improving over time, but is still a slow process no matter how you slice it. So no, I'm not where I should be yet even though I'm getting better.

4) Just because I have the luxury of sharing my recovery with a wife, which I'll admit makes things a lot easier than someone trying to walk away cold turkey from everything, doesn't mean you can't use advice from guys like me and find it helpful in your own journey. I was facing eventual impotence at 41; I don't have my entire youth to get this right. I need to maximize the time I have left. I don't want to see the younger guys end up like me and screwing themselves out of so many prime years when they could be out enjoying life and sex the way it was intended to be.

 

Well flatlining seems to be for people who go cold turkey because it's needed for rewiring purposes. That's awesome you've made progress in all of those. When did you notice changes take place?

 

You sure about that?

 

It was 12 days of no PMO before I had sex with my wife. Erection became possible but difficult and extremely difficult to maintain. A couple weeks later was the next time we did it. I could see improvement, but it still wasn't very good. Over the course of the next couple months, I saw slow improvements, had some frustrating times, and things slowly got better. I'm still not at the point where I eventually want to be, but it's enough improvement to believe in this.

 

Probably not. I mean if I meet a lady and have sex, I'd want to be able to O. I don't want to be a bottle rocket, then when I die I just turn into Niagara Falls, flooding the halls with my DNA.

 

No, I haven't completely recovered yet. But I think I will eventually. Even Gabe Deem, the guy from Reboot Nation who is bringing this problem to the forefront of pop culture, said it took him almost a year to fully recover, and he was 23.

I definitely think you can recover at 26. It's actually good that you're still fairly young and can fix this thing and live an adventurous life.

 

Day 37 here and no flatlines, hard mode. I think flatline is for guys with ED. For regular cases, there are no flatlines. Am I wrong?

 

No idea. I don't see how someone with ED will still enter a period of no erection-ness?

 

You're telling me. Like high school and college would've been completely different.

 

Pretty sure you said that exact quote about penetrating a girl in a PM lol. Yeah, unfortunately I can feel I'm in for a longer haul than just the 90 days. BUT you never know. Maybe "dreaming of a white Christmas" will have a different meaning this year..