I give up on women

People who complete a 90 day reboot always (as far as I have seen) report being less anxious and more social. So that might help with your introversion. There are plenty of ugly men with women, so there is no reason too worry much about that, just do basic grooming and choose a hair/clothing style that does not detract further. Dating apps are generally only effective for the top 10-20% looking men, if you are average or below meeting women in real life and getting to know them is your best bet. Hookers will either further remove sex from intimacy for you, or you will fall in love with one witch is a bad idea for obvious reasons. All while your money are wasted. And you can get diseases or get in trouble with the law, employers, family or pimps.

 

I'll have to politely disagree with the post above, it may take much longer than 90 days to achieve a change in terms of anxiety and social competence. It all depends on where your placement was before. How long you were addicted, what you used PMO to hide from. It also depends on the type of content you were watching. Don't expect that stopping PMO for 90 days will turn you into a social butterfly and make your anxiety disappear. You must work alongside abstinence, face your emotions and force yourself into social situations to learn.

Pointing the finger outward and blaming others, will not achieve anything. Anyone, man or woman, blaming the opposite gender as a whole (or anyone else for that matter) for being the root cause of their own issues will live a life of misery and victimhood. Judging by your post, you have huge self-esteem issues. My intention is not put you down by saying this. You need to work on that, abstinence from PMO is a good starting point. Eliminating social media as well. Meditate, exercise and start being kind to yourself. Learn to manage your emotions.

Your perspective is what is causing your suffering, friend. I truly hope my post resonates with you and can help you move forward in a positive direction.

 

I think when someone really, deeply gives up on something they stop framing things in terms of that thing.

In other words, whether it's chasing women or reboot by saying you give up on it you are still framing things in terms of that, you're just negating it. When the mind gives something up it probably just isn't thinking about it anymore one way or the other.

Someone could honestly say why is a part of me still thinking about it and inquire into that though.

 

i hope you'll get better, mentally.

 

Maybe you have tried too hard? It often happens that when we try to hard then things does not go how they should. When it comes to relationships, you should not think too much.

I am also not the best looking, and woman never paid attention to me, never spoken to me if I didnt start first, not to mention saying to me that I am cute. I had lots of hobbies - and still have, and it never changed my social status. I even went to the gym, and for a one year I never spoken to a single person there.

I use to think I am introvert, but there must be something more to it.

I somehow managed to find a girl and got married. I can tell you, that its not always sunshine and roses. You will not get sex any time you want, you will probably argue a lot. There are of course times when everything is ok, and we are happy. For me its a different state of being lonely - I know its strange to tell it, but I still feel lonely, even though I am married with kids for 15 years.