I feel tense if I don't fap

I'm no expert and my longest streak is only 18 days, but I think I know what you're talking about when it comes to the tension you're experiencing. In my case it manifested as a feeling of restlessness and the need to keep active all the time. Is that something similar to your experience?

I regarded it not as a tension but more as an inner energy that had to find its way out. So maybe try directing this energy outside in a productive way. Maybe hit the gym to let it out? Personally, I just did whatever came my way, pushups, cleaning the apartment, taking a walk, reading on an interesting topic etc. Just find a way out for the excess energy that comes from not fapping daily.

I don't know if the energy disappears over time, because I've never gone that far, but I know that I never wanted it to. The feeling of so much energy, and the desire to spend it in a useful way was great.

The difference in state of mind, generally, in my case is evident after as few as 7-10 days of NoFap. That's when the confidence surge happens and the voice gets noticeably deeper. I also have less problems with thinking clearly and concentrating on the task at hand.

 

just one thing to say- take it as one day at a time and stop over thinking it.... stay strong...stay healthy....stay away from PMO.....may be ur mind is playing tricks on you to bring you back to darkness. don't go mate stay in light...

 

Hey David!
I've experienced the same things that you did. To answer your questions: no, it won't go away, and the longer you stay clean, the harder it gets. At least for 90 days, that's the longest I went.
My best bet to get rid of the tension is to learn to relax and either meditate or pray. Because of the excess of hormones, your emotions became more volatile. In other words, you became emotionally imbalanced. You may want to focus on this. Working out, running, dancing, singing helps, anything that has a rythm. Also whatever calms your mind is good. You may want to cut back on coffeine and sugar as well.
Physical contact is recommended as well, hugs, gentle touching by another person, these can all relax the body and the mind. Just don't do it too sexually, because you don't want to trigger yourself.
I don't have a pet, but maybe that would be a good idea as well. A cat or dog or whatever, that you can touch and caress.

 

Yeah well quitting pmo is not about being happy. That's why you see all these relapses on the site. People think it will make them happy and when they are not happy, they do something to make themselves happy. Namely: watching porn and jacking off.
Well, what happened is that I tried this nofap stuff, and did 90 days hard mode, cold turkey. No relapses, no edging, no peeking, no bullshit. And to a certain extent, it was good. I felt confident, and strong, and my willpower was over the top. But as time passed, I became more frustrated. I became tense. I got angry quickly, and my emotions were all going crazy. After a while, keeping them under control was not possible. So I figured "well, I did 90 days, that's cool, why not MO every once in a while? no P just MO". Solid plan. And you know what happened? Not two weeks later, I was binging on porn so hard... It was worse than before I started this whole thing. Confidence gone, willpower back to minus zero...So I thought: FUCK THIS. And I left the site. Because I thought that by the 90 days, I will feel fine. And that didn't happen. I was feeling like shit. So I quit.
I mean I had no problems with porn and MO before anyway. I mean no ED, no PE, I was fine. It was just a good test.

Anyway, a year has passed, I returned to PMO and shit, but things have changed. I realised what did I do wrong the first time. I also got a girlfriend, and I was feeling guilty PMO-ing behind her back. Also I'm a christian, and you know...no adultery, and stuff like that. You can't really watch porn with a good conscience if you are devoted to God. And it rots your brain anyway. So I talked to my gf and started nofap again. So, here I am, trying to correct the mistakes I did before. Also I write down my experiences, and there is my old journal as well...maybe someone else wants to quit. So...yeah...that's it.

 

Yes, I think so, though there is no way I can be absolutely sure. Sorry to hear about your relapse. I don't know though, I never used any blocking software more than a few days.

 

Yes, I can say that I was happier. Or at least I was more emotionally balanced. My mind wasn't occupied with not pmo-ing and nofap, so I could do some other things.
Last time I had sex was quite a few years ago (I never did one night stands and stuff) but then when I had a gf and had sex, my drive to watch porn was significantly lower. So yeah, same experience.
I see where you're coming from, it's just not a good tactics for me at least. I mean I agree with that if you're not happy, you can't make other people happy. But there are different kinds of "happy". Just because something makes you happy in the moment, it doesn't mean that it is good for you. A lot of people live their lives like this, and that is understandable to a certain extent. But you can really mess up your life if you only care about whether is something feels good or not. You make some poor decisions and that will have consquences that will haunt you for the rest of your life.
I can think of plenty of things. PMO, casual sex, alcohol, drugs, all kinds of (potentially) dangerous stuff.

It all goes like "enjoy now, pay the price later". But in the end you may find out that the price is high, and you got nothing in return. Good luck man!

 

Hi David,
does one beer make you an alcoholic? Does just liking beer make you an alcoholic? No, of course they don't We're humans, if we didn't like sex, we wouldn't be here.
That's why the pull of PMO is so strong. It taps into a circuit that's evolved to be incredibly powerful and resistant.
I'm with EarthDragon on the emotional balance thing. There is so much going on these days that makes us doubt who we are, the basis of our economy is the creation of desires and dreams and to produce the feeling of lack to entice us to buy. And that's not even evil, that's just how the system developed to be most effective. We used to roam the Savannah and have to be on guard for lions or snakes to protect our physical health. The jungle we're in now has evolved different predators and we're badly prepared to deal with them. Maybe your feeling of tension is more than just sexual and fapping is just the easiest outlet you're used to. That could mean there's a whole range of things you could look at to alleviate the tension itself - it could be a sum of things from your job, your living situations, fear of the future, all sorts of things. The one thing I noticed is that when I get scared, I want to crawl under the covers and touch myself, because it's something I'm good at. It's safe. I don't fail, I don't disappoint anyone and there's a happy end. But when I'm done, the scary thing I ran away from is still out there and it runs deeper than the quick fix I just rubbed out. Life goals are scary. Other people are scary (being French, you'd have heard of Sartre's "No Exit" and "L'enfer, c'est les autres"). Whatever it is, I won't get it if I keep sticking my head in the sand telling myself "Yeah, I could if I really wanted to. I just don't want to right now/don't have time/don't have money" etc and deep down, I know that. And from deep down there, there's a voice that gets impatient and keeps nagging. And that hurts, too, and no amount of fapping can make that go away. So I have two choices, bury my fear and disappointment with myself in more distractions like alcohol and more, or I can stand up and finally face down my fear, take one step after another and at least have a fighting chance to make my dreams come true.

As for the software, there's a plugin for firefox (I'm not sure about Chrome and who uses IE anyway... ) called CCK2 Wizard that can block the settings for your extensions so you can install a handful of blockers without the simple click on "disable" when you're drunk, your self-control is in the toilet and you think fapping to pretty pictures is a good idea.

 

you should stay away from MO as well cause has many ill effects,like social anxiety, concentration problem,etc in short term and will affect your sex life later on. even I came here to stay away from MO bcoz P is not a major problem for me, i hardly watch it (slow internet connection).
and as far as ur tension is concerned, it may be because of something else.
a small suggestion in the end, start listening to a nice song and repeat the lyrics whenever you feel tensed.
stay strong... stay happy... God bless....

 

Okay what the hell is this website, Nofap wtf is that everyone should fap, fapping is good for you don't believe these lies, plus the anger and tension you're feeling is called you need to blow a load or you'll probably snap and go on a killing spree so do use all a favor and let it out, and it's also proven if you don't fap you dick will shrink permanently from not using it so fap as much as you can so you can keep that blood pumping, remember you gotta use it or you're gonna lose it

 

Can you please tell me the ill affects you can get from cleaning out the pipes because I've been cleaning the pipes everyday since the age of 13 and I have a clean bill of health, I'm very social around people, I don't have conscentration problem so can you tell me the ill affects because I would like to hear them and my sex life is 100% awesome I even like to clean the pipes when I'm having sex so yeah I think you're just spoon feeding people bullshit if not please prove me wrong plus if you don't fap you know you probably won't have a sex life because you need to fap to help your one eyed monster stay in shape

 

I have read on a couple of other threads that whenever you feel triggered or feel the urge to M, do some planking, or sit-ups. I have heard that helps to release some of that tension and take the urges away. Another thing I recommend is to start a journal if you haven't and keep track of your feelings and thoughts on a daily basis. Create a plan of action for when you are feeling triggered and enact it immediately without thinking. That can save precious seconds. I believe you will be successful. You just have to find what works best for you. I hope this helps. Stay strong!

 

Can you tell me what this website is about because I just stumbled on here and I'm just wondering why you guy don't M?

 

And why don't you guys like porn? porn is awesome that's just my opinion I don't get how people get addicted to porn I get sex addition but porn addition how does that work like I could never get addicted to porn I have shit I have to do like pays bills, work, work out, I don't have that much time in the day to be watching porn 24/7 I'm not trying to make fun of anyone I'm just trying to say if you feel like you're addicted to porn occupy yourself get a job, find hobbies like mma, painting, etc but you don't need to cut of fapping completely because that is really unhealthy for your one eyed monster you need to maintain it keep the blood pumping or your thingy's going to shrink and you'll be really sad it's human nature to fap and having erotic thoughs when fapping is natural but if you're watching porn 24/7 and your spanking your meat so hard it goes num then yeah you probably need to stop for a little

 

^Not sure if serious or trolling, but I prefer this tense feeling (which might dissipate eventually) than feeling like crap for many days due to one moment of pleasure. Before starting masturbating I was happy, confident, and attracted girls. Time for bragging: I didn't learn how to approach them as they approached me! I remember a girl calling home and cooing to me and saying some playful jokes. Then I discovered M and O. P came later, but it made things worse, to the point I'll get panic attacks/adrenaline rushes from looking at it, so I had to take a benzo to calm down! I believe fapping depleted something in me, so it stripped me of my confidence, my love of life, my joi de vivre. I have anhedonia which deffinitely appears after fapping where life becomes tasteless and boring. I never knew the connection before as I did it every day for years. It strips me of positive feelings, yet my negative feelings become exaggerated.

Healthy? Maybe for someone else, but not for me and many others here apparently. That's why I am ready to undergo that terrible withdrawal I have these days, I notice I have windows where I can feel confident and happy, despite my body feeling deprived from its PMO fix, the hot flashes and the shaking hands (too much energy I guess which I'm not used to). As I've quit P long ago, MO is the biggest difference between my old, confident and present self. Worth a shot (deffinitely no pun intended).

 

No I being serious because I've never have those problems with P and MO but with me I was same I had girls all over me but P did stop them from coming or did destroy my confidence it actually helped with it because before I started MO I really wasn't that big but when I started it got bigger and bigger so I got more confident around girls I guess we are just different because I've never had any ill effects from MO or P, but if you don't MO that's really really bad for your prostate also MO can help you a lot with your sex life