I (don't) want to be alone

Hey, welcome to the forum!

I can somewhat relate to you. I have isolated myself over the course of 5-6 years and am now actually recovering so I think I can give you a few tips.

First: go out.
Simple yet difficult. Do you read? Do you enjoy music? Maybe you write or paint?
What ever it is, start doing it in a park. As often as you can. Nature has a soothing effect on us and we feel happier if we spend more time in the green. That's why green spaces in cities are so vital.

Second: do something for your body.
No idea what? Do the first thing that's available and affordable. I didn't know what to do and so I signed up for a Yoga class once a week. I hated Yoga and I'm still not a fan. What it did to me is: got me used to going out, got me used to move my body, got me used to a routine. Now, after a few months, I workout almost everyday outside of the Yoga classes but I needed those to get me started.

Third: either revive old or find new hobbies.
Your brain needs something that keeps you busy and makes you happy, to put it simple. Hobbies are great for multiple reasons. You are busy with something worthwhile. You develop skills. You learn. To name a few. Not only you develop as a person with hobbies, you also create new topics to talk about with people which is a great way to build friendships upon or just have a topic to talk about with others.

Good Luck! Remember, it's never too late to learn or start something new!

 

All good ideas, IMO.

 

Man, I feel for you!
It's hard for me to relate because though I love being alone, I can and do easily make contact and have friendships), the way forward -- and I know this may sound trite -- is to reboot, reboot, and reboot -- normal mode at first if needed.

In the end, that may not be quite enough, but from the sound of it.... it may well be. We must be patient with ourselves -- and not worry too much at first -- since the first order of business is to break free... As we do, we can begin to visualize and then realize the steps to our healthy, true, and infinitely meaningful selves.

Best to ya!

 

Maybe join groups that you find interesting or entertaining. As in my case, I joined Buddhist(religion) group, and now just recently a martial arts class/group. I like how I could learn, relate, and copy some of the traits and characterics that people in these groups had.
I learned and developed things in me that I wanted to develop more, by hanging around with people in these groups.
Also I like to add. Don't romatisize and over estimate how much happiness you will get from having friends and a girlfriend. Imo, they most often come with as many downsides as upsides. Like for instance, they give a feelling of belonging(not loneliness feeling), but on the other hand they will often expect you to help out so you will have more obligations in life (and thus less free time).

 

Hey brother , I was a lone wolf for a long time , if you think it's gonna be easy to just have to sit around alone and not do anything it ain't, last year I started playing in a rugby club and I made loads of friends which I now look as brothers. I even opened up about my depression and suicide , they hugged me and told me it's gonna be ok, bro try to take the first step and you will make way.

 

I can relate a lot this
Specially when we see other groups and couples
But I think I was destined to be like this......
Now I am improving but still I lack those extrovert skills....... it's just not in my personality
And sometimes I like time with myself......but another moment I want a living being with me
Your avatar is of one of the loneliest anime characters I have ever seen..... But still he was comfortable with that ......but man.....he is a fiction

 

Hey dude I know how you feel because I've been living the same as you, when I read the tittle of your topic its hit me deeply because it's what I've been saying to my mind for years but I can't cheat my heart and I've been there for more time than you, for around 9 years; 9 years that I've spend in my room with my only friend the internet, I have given up for so many things so many times because of that because of those invisible chains that pull me over and over to my comfort zone, my bubble; I have cried a lot of times in my room asking to myself why my life is so pitiful, I've never had a girlfriend even a friend to who I could talk.
I haven't yet come out of that bubble but I already started working on it so these are some advice from me.

1. Try to talk to as many people as you can; whenever you go out either from buy grocery or a simple walk; try to greets as many people as you can, just say a simple hello and if they don't answer you don't worry that happens but there will always be someone who will answer your greet, that would help you to deal with anxiety and develop the skill to talk to people.

2. Do things that make you leave from your comfort zone; You need to start new hobbies like work out, yoga, painting... whatever that make you leave your comfort zone at least for an hour, with the time those hobbies will became in your new comfort zone.

3. Stay positive; the life can be hard but its also beautiful, there always be tough roads but you must find ways to go trough them and it could take years like what you and me are living right now but you must not lost your way, because at the end a warm and sweet reward will be waiting for us.

Note: Sorry if you can't understand something but english isn't my main language, anyways I tried my best by the way if you want someone to talk send me a pm

 

i solved friend problem go with your default hood/school/colony friends and girlfriend problem is shit i am also single

 

me too man. Sad, but easy choices, hard life. Hard choices, easy life.

make the difficult choices and go out force yourself to socialize more.