"I decided that I'm going to become celibate."

Congrats on your choices.

 

Hell yeah Bruce Lee!

 

What do you mean by edging? Whats the difference from celibacy and nofap PMO hardmode?

 

Edging: Masturbation without orgasm. http://www.nofap.com/glossary/

http://www.collinsdictionary.com/dictionary/english/celibate

1. a person who is unmarried, esp by a religious vow
2. abstaining from sexual intercourse

Hard mode: Rebooting without any sexual release (even via a partner). http://www.nofap.com/glossary/

 

I have also chosen to live the remainder of my life celibate and PMO free.

 

Thanks, and I do like your signature.
I find that feeling horny no longer causes any temptation to do anything sexual. I find temptation and urges originate in my thoughts. Control my thoughts and there is no temptation.

 

I can feel the sensation of horniness, but that doesn't mean I have sexual urges because of that feeling. If I thinks sexual thoughts then I have the temptations and urges and the horny feeling then would come in to feed those urges. So for, me controlling my thoughts and not allowing sexual thoughts means no temptations or urges. If I find I have a sexual thought I reject it straight away before the thought can take root.

 

I created a group for people who have chosen to live the remainder of their lives celibate, at this location.

 

Absolutely, I have no desire for a relationship and never have in all my 48 years, I doubt that will change in the future.

 

Why is the sky blue? It is just the way I am.

 

I find this so fascinating! So explain to me, or us, the reasoning for the decision. It is just because? To prove to yourself and the world that you can do it - something to boast about? Do you have spiritual reasons? Were you addicted to pmo/ sex obsessive?

Physiologically, our bodies are designed to have sexual functioning, ovaries, testes, penis, vagina, eggs, sperm etc, and for most of us (I recognise that asexuality is a thing) our brains are wired to use those parts. And my view is that we were were given them, well evolution gave it to us as a way to reproduce and form bonding relationships with others. and so it forms an integral part of the human experience. Those of us who are "addicted" or have formed bad habits like edging (regular prolonged periods in an aroused state is not how it was meant to be used) , excessively masturbating, even having excessive amounts of sex.... have abused that system. So the notion of being celibate for ever/indefinitely seems in no way an effective way of managing a natural, practical and enjoyable part of being a human. And doesn't do much to address the reasons why you/we ended up in this situation in the first place. You are essentially actively ignoring it. right? Which is not really ignoring it at all because to ignore something you are just thinking about not doing it at times more than what you would be if you weren't trying to ignore it.

Addicts don't recover from simply abstaining (look at recovery nation, 12 step, and generally agreed upon among psychologists) they recover by addressing the behaviours that got them addicted in the first place.

Anyway, my two cents. But we are all different and if your resolve is telling you that this is the way forward, then props to you

 

I choose to be celibate and to live a sexually pure life because it makes me feel awesome. ego has no part in it. Just because we have a physiological capability does not mean we have engage is that function. We have legs but that does not mean we have to run. Sexual purity for me while not a religious thing it is spiritual, being sexually pure makes my heart sing.

In the past I was a massive porn masturbation/edging addict. I would spend up 5 or 6 hours everyday engaged in edging and masturbating to porn. Life was a sad thing back then. In the past after repeated attempt and long periods of no porn or masturbation, the longest period was 14 months, I would try masturbation again, but I would loose control and fall back into my old ways. I was far happier when I was not masturbating or watching porn. So that is something I am quite happy to give up, it is not something I need or want in my life. Masturbation may give some physical pleasure but it does nothing for the spirit. I gain far more pleasure in my spirit/heart from living PMO free. As I have stated above I am a virgin and have never had any desire to be with another romantically or even for casual sex, it is just the way I am wired. so it is a good choice for me to choose celibacy because I love being sexually pure. Being sexually pure makes my heart sing.

 

For reasons that make sense to you, make sense to me

You are right, as self aware beings, we do have the ability to choose what we engage with. I suppose we could make the choice to not walk at all if we really wanted to!

Good luck Paulie! And fantastic to see that green crown under your avatar

 

I am glad it makes sense, it is often hard to explain it in a way that can be understood.

I believe this site can help many, many people so they deserve our support, $10 a month is not a lot of money, that's like the cost of a couple of cups of coffee here in Australia so it's not a huge expense to help support this site.

 

exactly!

I think you explained it well enough. It makes you feel like a better person to abstain, and you said you are not interested in having a romantic relationship with someone or sex with another in general.... and if that works for you and that is the future you want then... it really doesn't matter what anyone else thinks.

I just said what I said, because over the years I have seen many men abstain for the wrong reasons, and go into it with out proper thought ultimately doing nothing nothing for abolishing their addiction or gaining any other benefit.

Abstaining completely is not something I see in my future, as I have a strong desire to physically and emotionally connect with another, and sex is an important part of who I am. This journey for me is about developing healthy life behaiours and balance - health, mental, and sexual.