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I cant do it anymore

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by Deleted Account, Mar 15, 2019.

  1. Mar 15, 2019 #1
    Deleted Account

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    Hello guys! I have a problem nowadays. I have done 20 day challenge approximately 30 days ago and now im trying for 90. However, in last 10 days, i have relapsed so many times. I believe I dont have will-control that i had a month ago anymore. I cant control myself and i dont know what i should do! I dont want to go back my old habit.
     
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  2. Mar 15, 2019 #2
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    Take a deep breath. Go through your plan and see where you need to make it stronger. Find what tripped you up and eliminate it.
    You can do this, you did it already for a time.
     
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  3. Mar 15, 2019 #3
    Phoenix4

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    Hey brother - sounds like you're on a binge after a sizeable streak. The same thing often happens to me - I'll put together a string of days and then it will all collapse, and I'll binge like hell for a few days. It's your addict brain in hyperdrive after not having what it wants for a period. Trust me on this - you didn't lose any willpower. It's just your brain tricking you into believing that.

    The way I get through these periods is focusing on super small increments of time. Rather than worrying about 90 days, stay clean for TODAY. It's all about breaking the binge. Focus on tomorrow's problems tomorrow. Soon enough you'll have a string of a few days and you'll be out of the binge mentality.
     
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  4. Mar 15, 2019 #4
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    Have you tried reading books about this? Your brain on porn is a good start. It allows you to understand what's going on in your mind that makes this addiction take hold and so you feel more able to combat urges. That's definitely helped me on my latest streak. Another book is The Brain that Changes Itself (which I started reading as it was recommended in the your brain on porn book). There's stuff in there that will blow your mind. I just find it helps me get a better perspective on my mind and body and I've started to see my brain as a tool that I can use to make life better rather than something that is causing me anguish. There's a section about porn and sex in general which is very interesting.
     
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  5. Mar 15, 2019 #5
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    For me quite similarly, but in a little bit bigger scale. I made over 100 days...9 months ago. After this period, I never exceeded 21 days. Do not give up, learn from my example that there will NEVER be a moment like "just the last time and I'll be ready for 90 days streak". The brain is always going crazy, in my case especially around 7th and 14th day. Then is MUCH EASIER!
    Come on brother! We're not going for the longest streak, but to defeat porn & masturbation addiction!
     
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  6. Mar 15, 2019 #6
    chiyu

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    Sometimes a bad slip will reinforce the cycle for more slips. You're just in a situation where the momentum went in the wrong direction for awhile. Although it's concerning, you have to reassure yourself that this is not the necessary path you will take going forward though. It is not written in stone what you do this day, or the next. You're merely in a temporary phase, which you can push through, and push beyond if you are determined to shift your direction. You need to take small steps, and slowly start building your skills and resolve and inner power to improve your life. You can do it, one day at a time buddy.
     
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