I can get any girl I want, but...

Hi. I guess some of us may envy you your issues
IMHO the real question is something totally different. Sex should be about something more than having a fun. The best part of it is the connection and intimacy with someone you genuinely care about. You may call it love or whatever you want.
It might sound boring and moralizing, but its the thing that really make a difference. I dont say its wrong to have sex for one night. I just believe it just doesnt worth it.
To make an example. You ask if you should have french fries now or fast all day and enjoy them later, starving. My answer is have a steak instead and have it whenever you fucking want
Sometimes i feel many guys here just trying to trick themself, because they stuck in Pmo mindset:
"Oh man, this hardcore porn is disgusting, i'll watch softcore from now."
"Okay porn is bad for me, i'll just fap without it."
"Geez my arm hurts im gonna find myself a hooker."
"It feels wrong to pay for sex im going to pick up some drunk chicks."
I guess you can see my point now. As long as you have sex just for fun and O, it really doesnt care how and when you do it. But in the moment it become shared intimacy, something that connects you with someone special it start to be REALLY something.
Good luck, pal.

 

That´s amazing! It´s a great gift. You will make a wonderful husband, making all the left behind girls envious on your lucky wife! Best story I´ve ever read.

 

What you should do now I do not know. But I know what you should do in future. You should just learn how to orgasm without ejaculation. Like that you can still have all the benefits of having full bucket of goo and you get to have sex. The "soooooooooooooooooo good like I just have to have it" feeling mainly comes from goo retention anyways. It makes no sense to waste all that goo(d) stuff, lose the benefits and then have to wait another 80 days when you could just have your cake and ate it too.

 

My 10 cents are that I want better sex and connections via noFap. So if I had the chance I would have had sex during my reboot.
I was curing myself from porn addiction and porn imagery in my head, and comparing real girls with porn models.
In the faq it sais: you may have sex unless you are in monk mode.
Unfortunately I was in monk mode buly chance, but now two girls want me and I have other type of problems ;-)

 

Well first of all, I'm not an expert on it, especially since I have not mastered it yet myself. But I know 100% it's possible. Partly because I have had some dry nocturnal orgasms before. And partly because I attempted dry orgasms intentionally during MO with some success. My biggest success so far was about half an orgasm without ejaculation and then it leaked out through second half of it. Which is huge for me cos usually I start ejaculating before the orgasm even starts! But then I stopped practicing it to go back to PMO, dumb me, and now I can not practice it cos I am abstaining from P and MO. Gonna resume it later.

But anyway, the method I used was very straight forward. Simply training the pubococcygeal muscle (PC muscle for short) through kegel exercises and then using some flexing and breathing techniques before and during orgasm to stop ejaculation. You gotta make sure that it's right muscle tho. Very often men will mistake their pubococcygeus muscle (BC muscle for short) for their PC muscle. This will not give you real dry orgasm. It will probably just stop your orgasm instead. And if it doesn't then all the ejaculation will just be forced into bladder (you still lose it) even tho it might look dry from outside - you will still pee it out with urine later.

So make sure you do find the right kegels and then do PC exercises instead of BC exercises. Or as people who are into kegels call them - "front kegels" and "back kegels". Pilates are also amazing to strengthen pelvic floor for this purpose, so you should do them. Heavy squats and lover ab exercises help somewhat as well. But the point is that you should have those muscles strong before you attempt anything else.

 

I can confirm that it is possible. I remember the technique even during dreaming now.
As you are also familiar with Mantak Chias techniques, you know how to work on this yourself. I have reached the point of dry orgasms, so I totally can avoid the ejaculation during an orgasm at least when masturbating (I have not tried this with a partner yet), but I was not really able yet to reach the ability of multiple orgasms by that - 3 dry ones in a row once, but that was after a longer streak and with use of webcams (what is also a kind of porn stimulation). Also these orgasms, even without any ejaculations, kinda lower vitality in my perception. (yes, I have checked for retrograde ejaculations, nope, urine stayed clear, if it was performed right) I can also feel the chi energy rising then, leading it upwards and rotate it in the head, before leading it down again and it doesn´t weak me, but nevertheless the libido decreases after this. My body doesn´t feel a need or desire to orgasm again for several hours/days after it, except I force it to it. At the moment I have come to the conclusion and experimentation, that it´s better to avoid any orgasms and ejaculations, if it is not a loving sexual union. Maybe I will change my mind, if I have mastered the described taoist techniques better and after more practice.

 

Great post!

As a person who's been up in the 70+ days range a couple of times and who noticed that I was not free from low-life-sex temptations (including P) at all, I would recommend another 2-3 x 35 days at least. Because with P-dependence and S-addiction comes the inability to experience and express deep emotional love physically -- which is what I would want to reclaim. Besides, all this S is so preoccupying it takes the life out of pursuing more worthwhile stuff.

If, of course, the goal is to get laid daily till we're no longer attractive to the foot-loose young playmates of today, or if we think faking "love" by "making" love is the thing, PMO-addiction will likely have us rationalize a speedy return to the party lifestyle.

It's what we want to do with our lives that causes us to reboot. If the goals are just skin deep, a quick de-ED "streak" may be good enough. If we wanna fill our lives with constructive, uplifting, and true content, it's best to get our minds out of our pants (our equipment will be fine) and create worthwhile life content first. Depending on our level of S-attachment, that may take 90 days or more. By the time we get there, we'll know.

Good luck!

 

depends on what kinda sex though. on the one hand there is love-centered creative and physical intimacy with a significant other with whom you a real, deep and whole-person connection -- on the other extreme are flings with live bodies who are like 3-D P actors with whom you act out P-infused fantasies. One can be good, the other not, for your reboot.

 

In his last post before quitting the forum:
Relapsed after 48 days
Reason : weed and being lonely, and having no car. Loneliness!