I can’t stop

Discussion in 'Porn Addiction' started by Deleted Account, Jul 24, 2018.

  1. No matter what I do I can’t let go of this addiction. I’ve known about NoFap for over 2 years now and these last 2 years have been the worst of my life. I was optimistic at first but now I just feel completely fucked. Guys I really don’t know what to do I’ve let years go by and I still haven’t found it in myself to stop. I don’t know if there’s some secret or there’s just something I’m not getting but I’m really concerned.

    I cannot even count how many times I’ve tried and relapsed. It’s in the hundreds if not thousands. This is a huge problem for me and I’m really spooked at this point.

    Wtf do I even do in this situation? Words mean nothing, they can’t help me. I really can’t trust my own self not to relapse yet I’m the only one who is responsible for if I relapse or not.
    It’s such a tough situation I’ve been depressed for months on end just continuously feeding my addiction who’s appetite will never be fulfilled.

    Guys I need help :(
     
  2. If I were you I would find someone to talk with daily, someone who can help with advice, help you be accountable and for you be able to tell how you are feeling. It sounds like you feel a bit alone.
     
  3. slink123456

    slink123456 Fapstronaut

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    I am in your situation too. Last 2 years I’ve had really high anxiety. I’m on day 6 (just) and although no urge yet, I’ve been struggling and relapsed a few times. I’ve only been about 10/11 months PMO free since 2004.

    So if it makes you feel a little better you are not all by yourself. Hang in there man. Don’t give up the battle, there will be a way of getting through it so keep trying new things too.
     
  4. I do but I have no one in my personal life that I could talk to this about or who could possibly relate to me.

    I’ve basically thrown my life away and am struggling to get it back.

    It’s pretty much impossible at this point...idk man thanks for the advice though
     
  5. I usually try to keep my head up but I’m not even gonna lie to you the shit seems hopeless at this point. You don’t know how many times I’ve talked myself up and told myself I was gonna get through just to destroy myself even more.
    It’s like I’m a fucking black hole with no way out. That’s exactly how I feel. At least I know there’s someone out there who could relate but I’d rather be able to pull us both out then just relate to this depressing situation.
     
  6. There are people here who would help you. Sometimes all you have to do is ask. Also there is an accountability partner thread. Never feel alone. :0)
     
  7. True I just don’t see how it would help me. I’ve talked to people online in the past and it still didn’t deter me. Did it help for you? How are you currently doing in terms of recovery
     
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    Someone told me “You only need to try one more time than you fail to be successful.”
    Don’t give up.
     
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  9. GA93JDeereboy

    GA93JDeereboy Fapstronaut

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    Never Ever give up. Well it is good you are now a member here. That's good. We are here to support you. Every time you need help write it and you have my and our support. Set a goal. What is making you keep going back to it?
    Try to keep busy. Focus on your goals in life. Be successful. Just look at all the benefits you will have when you quit. Its totally worth it. Tomorrow makes 20 days for me!
     
  10. Everybody thinks they can't stop... I also thought the same.

    But the truth is... If you want it, you can get it.

    But there's a missing thing... That is if you want it, you work hard for it, you stop looking for shortcuts and prepare yourself for the long haul.
     
  11. fan_of_all_might

    fan_of_all_might Fapstronaut

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    I read here about reading books on addiction. One thing the user posted that suck with me was that we are using our addiction to run away from ourselves, and you can't truly get rid of it until you confront that thing. I think that's how sobriety and addiction is supposed to work. Not as a running away per say but a moving towards. I'm going to take a look and see if I can find that guys post I really liked the idea.

    Sometimes just looking at thing from a new perspective was all that we needed.
     
  12. Arnuld

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    It may be time to seek out professional help. I was completely unable to get my addiction under control until doing so. If you cannot afford professional help you may benefit from attending SAA meetings. I know that this can be a really scary thing to do. But the reality is that most people need professional help and or recovery groups to beat an addiction long term. Mark my words- porn will be classified as a narcotic at some point. And people with narcotic addictions find recovery in AA NA SAA etc....either way you are not alone and you can beat this.
     
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