I am confused though I still like girls!

@SomeoneSaveMe

Hey there,

First, welcome. You are among friends and have found the right site to quit pmo (porn masturbation orgasm).

You are 100% correct about being straight if you like women.

You've fallen into a common pit of pmo, finding fetish videos that overwhelm the mind. There is no way reality can compete with online porn. As the brain gets the high from it's own chemicals, it craves and demands more - just like any addiction.

So, relax about worrying if you are gay. You are not.

What to do then? It's simple, but hard.

Download the "Getting Started" guide and read it. It took me several times reading it before I saw myself in it.

Next, clean house. Clean your computer of porn, clean your bookmarks, your accounts on the various "tube" sites, remove any masturbation materials from where you fap and no internet devices in your bedroom after bedtime.

Start a reboot of your brain with a period of no pmo. A "hard" reboot in normally no pmo for 90 days. But, I prefer one day at a time.

Start a journal. They are in the age forums.

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Welcome! I'm glad you're here.

I just want to encourage you: you can do this. It will be hard, and it may seem like you're climbing an impossible mountain, but just take it one day at a time. One. Single. Day.

And I believe if you leave the porn and masturbation behind, you will get a lot of clarity and peace. It will be work, but it will be worth it.

 

@SomeoneSaveMe

Hey,

Yes.

And before you start a hard reboot, take a deep breath. Relax. It's important, but you don't have to fix it all in one day. A good plan is important to keep yourself on your reboot.

And can I say you are so correct, 90 days sounds impossible. It's not, it just sounds that way. I prefer to take it one day at a time. Today I didn't pmo and I don't plan on pmo'ing tomorrow. For me, that's working for now. It's been a few weeks.

Can't wait to hear more about how you are doing. I don't wish good luck, I think it's more like "keep the faith". Faith that there is a better life available if you reboot and begin a healthy sex life.

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It feels impossible. I started off aiming at a 30 day reboot, then when I got theire aimed for 90, etc. Starting with manageable goals also give you a chance to celibrate your success early. Good luck.

 

@SomeoneSaveMe

Congrats. NoFap's goal is a normal healthy sex life. So, going to a party an noticing girls that you find attractive is normal (by "girls" I mean age appropriate).

As for the dream - it's a dream. If you were at that party and you noticed the good looking females, you were doing what normal healthy males do. Just remember to be respectful and that women are people too with all the feelings and rights of all people.

@kropo82 I agree with your thoughts about a smaller goal, then a bigger goal.

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