hysterical bonding good or bad?

I've been craving intimacy with my husband. Someone mentioned on here 'solace sex' (I'm afraid I can't remember who). I googled it and think I may have been guilty of this over the last few weeks. Have you tried intimacy without sex? We are finding it really helpful to reconnect. Naked cuddling while watching tv in bed. Non sexual massages. Just a shoulder rub on the sofa. Breathing exercises while forehead touching. Nothing complicated or weird but I'm finding all this very helpful. The PA has made me very vulnerable especially to rejection and all the above is helping me to heal emotionally from the pain/trauma I've been through and get closer to hubby.

 

I googled it and came across this article
http://www.healthy.net/Health/Article/The_Three_Kinds_of_Sex/8213
If link doesn't work just Google it. It made a lot of sense to me.

 

I felt like this too-after 2 years of no sex there was no way in hell I would abstain though. So my husband and I started with karezza with bonding behaviours. He did not O and we had slow sex with lots of touching, eye gazing, coordinated breathing and talking. Very intimate and helped us.

 

It is basically him focusing all of his attention on you. Caressing you. Loving you. Kissing you. Penetration happens, but very slow to little movement with lots of eye gazing and kissing. It sounds boring but is not. It releases bonding hormones and deepens spiritual connection. There is absolutely no O for him. It is about bonding and not chasing an O. Technically you do not chase an O either, but for me I became multi G spot with this and accepted it

 

Have him read what I wrote.

 

@Sadgirl were you scared when you tried karezza because of the amount of intimacy it required? I've wanted to try to be intimate (emotionally) during sex, but sometimes get so scared I can't look at my husband (which I feel horrible about!). I've mentioned I wanted to try Karezza but whenever sex happens, it's the same old sex we always have, and if it's up to the guy to initiate/lead, I don't want to be like, "Hey let's try that karezza thing" Also part of me is scared that if we try I won't be into it because I won't be emotionally ready to let him see me so vulnerable... if that makes sense.

 

@AnonymousAnnaXOXO At first not at all. I think I was so starved for connection that I didn't feel that I needed to protect myself. Honestly the first 2 months of sex was incredible-we both cried all the time during sex and had some really surprising spiritual experiences. Now though, I am very unemotional during sex-I think that now I am protecting myself because he has been caught in so many lies. The first couple of months I thought it was all out. Now I am just angry.