Husband working away

I'm sorry things are going this way. Sometimes things just don't work out the way we want them to. But it is better to find that out sooner than later. No matter what happens between the two of you makes sure to take care of yourself first. You always have support here if you need it. Remember that the PA isn't your fault, that is all on him. It is his choice to deal with it the way he is. That is not on you.

 

I know what you mean. I've felt that worthless feeling for so long. To be fair to my bf it is something I've struggled with my whole life. But his PA and lying has just made it worse. It was really bad this last DDay, and I only now find myself starting to move away from it. But that feeling is there, waiting. It is so hard to fight sometimes. I wish I knew how to fight it, but deep down I feel worthless, like nothing. Sometimes I think would it be easier to get over without him? I don't know and really I don't want to find out. I do hope you that strength inside yourself to heal and move forward with your life.

 

I'm sorry to hear you're going through this. Remember, it's his fault due to his addiction he doesn't want to break, not yours. It's not a reflection of your worth, but his. You sound like a lovely lady. I'm sure you'll find a good man soon.

 

*He* may not think you're worth it, but that doesn't mean you're not! If he's given up, it may hurt you more if you try to convince him otherwise, as that's giving him more opportunities to hurt you, and the longer you try, the worse you'll likely feel. Trying to chase him might drive him further away. It might be better to let him actually miss you and give him a chance to realize his mistake.

 

Well, early happy birthday! Almost 12 years together with your first has to be really hard to let go of! I can't imagine how neglected you must feel. I've never been married, and have only ever had one semi-serious girlfriend that lasted a few months, so take whatever I say about relationships with a big pinch of salt.

 

Hey love,

How long have you been married for? No children? His loyalty to you is not very strong. What about bills? He wants a divorce? You also mentioned you were working things out. So was that a big fight? I say if he’s your husband you should move to where he is at. Is it better money? At this point you should both stick together. It will only make things worse with the distance. Was your situation? Would you move? I moved abroad for my husband. You could A: give him space and distance. what will happen if he knows what it’s like to lose you. B: move and sort this out together. Best of luck to you and I’m sorry. I will continue to check up on you.

 

It's a complicated situation and this may seem simplistic but sometimes letting go of things is healthier than holding on to what hurt us... I don't think I can understand what you're feeling but I hope everything turns out for best.