How to transmute sexual energy when in front of women when they try seducing/arousing you. Serious.

Discussion in 'Abstinence, Retention, and Sexual Transmutation' started by auzzy_mikey, Jun 2, 2019.

  1. auzzy_mikey

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    Hey guys,

    I only want serious answers and replies here.

    How do you transmute sexual energy when I am in front of women when they try purposely seducing or arousing me?

    How to purposely and consciously transmute this sexual energy and avoid any release of precum from my penis when in front of women.

    Whether it involve some transmutation from 1 chakra to another chakra. Please advise me on this.

    Only serious answers and contributions in this thread would be appreciated.
     
  2. IndigoRazor

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    When I read the word chakra I concluded you are overthinking this. Just breath man. Find out if your values overlap. And take it easy. Find out if she follows you when you lead. If not this is often a sign she has some kind of unresolved daddy issues. If she does chances are she s a good women for you.

    If not separate ways.
     
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  3. auzzy_mikey

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    Yeah man I don't know I just want to get rid of my sexual urges.
     
  4. astroelectro

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    1. Why does this situation even arise? It sounds like borderline sexual harassment if this person keeps on trying to seduce you.

    2. A technique that works for me is the Buddhist "foulness meditation" google/wiki for explanation of technique.
     
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  5. Kiz Whalifa

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    Yikes. This is some twisted meditation, but I might try it....

    Edit: That blew my high, yow
     
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  6. astroelectro

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    haha for sure, it's an effective tool when you need that extra boost to detach the mind from sex thoughts... worth noting is the loving-kindness meditation (metta) which is more grounding and can also help balancing out the thoughts. Peace.
     
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  7. auzzy_mikey

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    This situation arises because females derive self-esteem from the values and attention they get from guys.

    Does this foulness meditation help with stop getting aroused and releasing precum actively in front of women when they try seducing you?
     
  8. astroelectro

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    Granted, but I think she should ideally be made aware that you are not interested at this time. You're playing with the proverbial fire. Of course it is your life and you should do as you wish.

    In my experience, yes it can be very effective for controlling your body's arousal system. I might suggest practicing it at home to install it into your brain, so that it is easily accessible when it's needed. Then when you first feel the twinge of arousal, run the program so to speak.
     
  9. auzzy_mikey

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    Can you provide me some links? Or what should I exactly type to find the most effective technique?
     
  10. streammango

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    man please help me to stop sexual feeling in my head i cant concentrate on my studies and i feel urge to masturbate. i have seen videos of quitting porno and mastur but still i get back to it. please help me with solutions
     
  11. astroelectro

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    Any description of traditional body parts for foulness meditation should suffice. Below I have listed the traditional parts of meditation and included some examples of how one might apply the technique. I might suggest only doing this for a minimal amount of time, until you are sufficiently grossed out by the reality of everything instead of being caught up in a fantasy-trip.

    A short-hand version of this, that I use, is imagining the female with shaved head and shaved eyebrows. Then, it is easy for me to see what they really look like. Many women that people consider attractive with hair/makeup actually look like men when you strip away the veil.

    head hairs (Pali: kesā) - If not cared for, women's long hair becomes greasy and has bad odor.

    body hairs (lomā) - many females have to remove unsightly hair on their faces and bodies to appear more feminine than they are in reality. Imagine them if the didn't shave the bodies and remove hair. When using this visualization, one might realize women are just as gross as men.

    nails (nakhā)

    teeth (dantā) - Imagine how bad the woman's breath smells in the morning.

    skin (taco) - Imagine how vain women are in regards to skin. Without many products and creams, their skin would be unsightly and unattractive. They have to create the illusion of perfect healthy skin with makeup.

    flesh (maṃsaṃ) - The body dissected and split into steaks like cows.

    tendons (nahāru)

    bones (aṭṭhi)

    bone marrow (aṭṭhimiñjaṃ)

    kidneys (vakkaṃ)

    heart (hadayaṃ)

    liver (yakanaṃ)

    pleura (kilomakaṃ)

    spleen (pihakaṃ)

    lungs (papphāsaṃ)

    large intestines (antaṃ)
    small intestines (antaguṇaṃ)
    undigested food (udariyaṃ)
    feces (karīsaṃ)
    bile (pittaṃ)

    Imagine these 5 categories and remember that in the privacy of their own homes, women are farting and shitting just like any other animal. Their feces stinks and their bodies are full of shit/piss like any other animal.

    phlegm (semhaṃ) - Imagine how unattractive the woman would be with a head cold, nasal cavities clogged with mucus etc.

    pus (pubbo) - An infection on the woman's body producing pus.

    blood (lohitaṃ)

    sweat (sedo) - A bad body odor when not showered or covered with perfume.

    fat (medo) - Most women dress to flatter their figures, when naked they often are not as attractive.

    tears (assu)

    skin-oil (vasā)

    saliva (kheḷo) - See stinky morning breath above.

    mucus (siṅghānikā) - See notes above on imagining head cold etc.

    fluid in the joints (lasikā)

    urine (muttaṃ)
     
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  12. astroelectro

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    I don't think it's wise to try and study and reformat your brain at the same time. It might just be a recipe for frustration. People tend to do too many things at once, which dissipates willpower, which results in failure.

    Can you possibly take 3-5 days off your studies in order to establish a foundation of abstinence? Within 3-5 days time you should be able to go back to your studies and have the willpower to control yourself and remind yourself why you really don't want to waste energy with the nonsense.
     
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  13. AutumnPeace

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    Hostility mate. Hostility. Not towards women. Towards nature. There are two faces of existence. Aggression and lust. Get on the aggression train. Realize how lust and everyone abusing it for personal benefit is drawing you back. You will be pissed. Get lost thot. That's my inner thought. I am nice on the outside though. No need to offend anyone. Not that I care what would people think of me. Fk them really. But hurting feelings is unnecessary and totally irrelevant of your goal. Poor retard probably can't help herself with her hormones. I mean everyone does it animals plants insects people. They want to reproduce and so does she. She's just a mammal in heat. See them that way and know you're better than that.
     
  14. streammango

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    THANX MAN I WILL DO
     
  15. Fightyourlowerself

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    Its not 'you' they are arousing but your lower brain (appetitive / reptilian brain). The real you is your upper brain (intellect). The upper brain is the King and the lower brain are like his army. Make sure they bow to the king.
     
  16. Awedouble

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    I want to highlight this because I think in a bigger context, this is a sorry state of things socially speaking. The same could be said about guys deriving self-esteem from women of course.

    The point is there's physical foulness and psychological foulness. To me a transactional view of human relationship and sex in particular (think prostitution) is foul in that it reduces human beings to a quid pro quo exchange, instead of just freely, and honestly complimenting someone without expecting something in return. Of course for this to work you have to not see relationships that way, otherwise it's like everyone does it and everyone uses each other in some way or another. (as a side note, this kind of attitude can even be placed under the banner of morality when in fact the person judging is using it as leverage to make the other(s) wrong by pointing out and emphasizing certain things in their limited view)

    For clarity and contrast it's like this:

    Healthy view: You are valuable just because you're a human being
    Unhealthy: You're valuable because of your value to me as a member of the opposite sex, and I might be expressing that because I want to get something from you - even if it's just attention
     
  17. ASABOVESOBELOW

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    Here is an easy but effective method.


    Focus on your pineal gland (the area inbetween your brows above your eyes), tense your perinium (the muscle you use to stop yourself from taking a piss) whilst slowly inhaling, then relax on a slow exhale, then repeat for a minute or two, whilst keeping your attention on your pineal gland/third eye/forehead area. This will bring energy up and divert it away from your groin area.

    A more extreme method would be to combine this with reverse quick-fire (fast inhaling and exhaling but with your diaphragm moving in on the inhale instead of out and vice versa) breathing in horse stance, but not so easy to do in public haha...
     
  18. auzzy_mikey

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    This sounds really good and effective. Do you use this method yourself to keep away from sexual arousal? Any links on these steps?
     
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