Background: 19 yr old male, watching porn since early teens, progressively became more extreme, and masturbated several times a day often w/ deathgrip. Had issues initially having sex w/ women but mostly associated w/ performance anxiety, and had no issues with my ex. So I have been doing no PMO for about 40 days now, I'd say I'm in flatline because I rarely get hard asides from incredibly sporadic moments, feel little to no urges to go for females who are into me, and don't have morning wood (feels like my buddy is dead down there). When will I be able to tell I am good to go and start seeking relationships again? I ask this because I had several "attempts" at sex during this time w/ a fwb where I was more or less completely limp, and would like to fix myself before I subject myself to that again. Thanks in advance
My flat line was for a couple of weeks but I've read it can take a couple of months for guys my age (I'm almost 20 years older than you). I relapsed after 90 days, but nothing negative happened as a result. Sex afterwards was fine.
A little longer than 90, but it was enough time for me to feel a proper reboot. Thankfully I didn't really suffer during the 90 days, so I picked up where I left off. The key for me is that I just feel an urge for PM. I crave the company of a real woman.
Hey man, for me performance anxiety was always there, but I did start having sex once my body actually started asking for it. I felt the physical excitement and enjoyment. Don't do it just because you feel like you should be doing it. I don't think that you'll get cured and then start having sex. For me sex was part of getting myself back on track and a way to reconnect with my body. It was part of the cure. For me having sex was a very important part of the rewiring process. Don't rush it though, If you feel you're not completely ready yet then don't do it. Wish you the best!
Yeah, I understand the aspect of sex being one of the steps towards recovery, it's just that too often I find myself holding back on opportunities where it's readily available out of fear of experiencing ED again. I have noticed that when I relapse purely from M, my libido does return slightly, would this be a good option after the 90 days, or even at this point considering my urge to view porn is little to none?
